10 Ways to Develop a Success-Oriented Mindset

1. Put yourself in challenging new situations.

You gain confidence by overcoming challenges, but when you fail to put yourself in challenging new situations because you assume the outcome won’t be positive, you will be unable to grow.

Instead, develop a list of exciting challenges you’re interested in overcoming. They could include exploring a foreign city on your own or enrolling in a challenging business course at your local university. Even volunteering to help with a new project at the office can provide a challenging situation that will foster growth.

Whatever the challenge you select, be sure it is something that interests you; otherwise, it may be difficult to stay focused along the way.

2. Be open to finding a mentor.

Mentorship is often discussed with regard to self-improvement and business success. But many professionals assume that finding a mentor is as simple as asking a senior professional for help.

However, as Sheryl Sandberg argues in the Harvard Business Review, finding a mentorship doesn’t work that way. Instead, professionals need to put themselves in situations where they can build real relationships with senior business leaders.

In time, after an existing relationship has formed, it may be appropriate to ask a senior professional for mentorship. That means readers will need to make themselves available to build professional relationships before they can secure a mentor who can help them grow.

3. Think of failure as a learning opportunity.

Failure is an outstanding learning opportunity. If you find yourself succeeding frequently, it may be a sign that you aren’t challenging yourself enough.

Develop a mindset that views failure as an experience to learn from. By reframing failure, you’ll find it is easier to take risks. Adopting this mindset will leave you less prone to anxiety, which is key to creating a winning attitude.

4. Keep a folder of your proudest moments.

While it’s important to focus on the present and future instead of the past, maintaining a collection of moments you’re proud of can serve as a helpful reminder when you’re feeling down. By periodically reviewing past successes, you may find inspiration for future projects. At the very least, you can use past successes as a way to build long-term confidence.

5. Surround yourself with top talent.

Environment plays a significant role in creating our mindsets. After all, we’re social creatures and are influenced by those around us. Surround yourself with talented individuals who can teach you new things and who can encourage you to grow personally and professionally.

If you’re involved in the hiring process at your organization, look for prospective employees who are better or smarter than you. This will help create an environment that can consistently encourage you to form a successful mindset.

6. Find time to disconnect from stressors.

The average American works more hours per week than his or her counterparts in other developed countries. Furthermore, the average number of hours worked has been steadily growing since the 1980s. Unfortunately, work-related stress has been creeping up at the same time.

Readers should find time to disconnect from work-related stress that can make it difficult to adopt a success-oriented mindset. Traveling can be a good way to disconnect, as can adopting a daily meditation practices

7. Develop a simple morning routine.

According to lifestyle gurus like Tim Ferriss, we are shaped by our morning routines. That means it’s important for readers interested in developing a new mindset to develop new habits as well.

Since your morning has the power to make or break your entire day, consider creating a simple morning routine that positions you to have a successful day.

For example, waking up earlier than normal can give you time to focus on yourself in ways that might have otherwise been impossible. With the extra time you can go to the gym or develop a meditation practice to reduce stress, as mentioned above.

8. Set time-bound and achievable personal goals.

More than 90 percent of New Year’s resolutions fail. If you’re serious about changing your mindset, you should take a different approach to goal setting. Instead of relying on a New Year’s resolution, create time-bound goals that you know are achievable from the outset. Approaching goal setting from this angle will help to build your confidence, which in turn will reshape your thinking.

9. Listen to your instincts.

Part of developing a winning mindset is learning to trust your instincts. According to the Harvard Business Review, we are usually capable of making smart decisions when we rely on our gut instincts.

Confidence in your instincts is a critical component of business success. While it’s usually ideal to rely on research and data to make decisions, there are a variety of scenarios in when empirical evidence is unavailable or inconclusive. In these situations, people with a winning mindset are comfortable making decisions with their gut. 

10. Avoid stagnation.

If you feel as though you aren’t learning new things in your personal or professional life, it’s time to change it up. Avoid stagnation in order to continue to grow. This will help you to face new challenges and overcome new obstacles.

Developing a successful mindset can take time. To get started, focus on learning new skills and putting yourself in new situations. By overcoming adversity, you’ll begin to develop faith in yourself.

Establish morning routines and build a network of talented colleagues and mentors in order to avoid stagnation and achieve moments you can be proud

How to make the right choice in marriage

Tammy Darling and her husband explored God's intent for marriage and learned that it takes work, and a healthy marriage is the result of making right choices.

The first six years of my marriage were anything but happy. My husband and I constantly butted heads, each wanting our own way. After growing weary and miserable, we decided to explore God’s intent for marriage.

With more than 20 years of marriage behind us now, we’ve learned that marriage is not a one-time “I do” and then you live happily ever after. Marriage takes work, and a healthy marriage is the result of making right choices.

Here are some of the choices that turned our marriage around:

We chose to make peace. This, however, requires humility — a virtue I don’t easily embrace. Although humility is still a difficult choice for me, I’ve learned that when I’m wrong, I should quickly and genuinely admit to it, apologize and move on. Peace enters my marriage when one spouse restores balance through humility.

We chose to serve each other. We began realizing how often we expected more from each other than we were willing to give. We knew we could either continue to selfishly demand our way, or we could selflessly surrender to one another. As both of us chose to serve, our marriage was blessed with joy.

We chose not to focus on changing each other. We’ve accepted each other’s differences, and we’ve learned not to make major issues out of minor faults. Too often I had tried to change things about my husband, not accepting the fact that any change in his heart or attitude was the Holy Spirit’s responsibility — not mine. Only when I began praying for my marriage did things begin to change — in both of us.

We chose mutual submission. Although the Bible clearly teaches that the husband is the leader of the family, Scripture also emphasizes mutual submission among all believers, encouraging us to defer to one another when possible. The apostle Paul exhorts believers to submit “to one another out of reverence for Christ” (Ephesians 5:21). The husband and wife who mutually submit do so with God as their guide.

We chose to place God first in our life and our marriage. God empowers us to remain dedicated to each other and to put the other’s needs ahead of our own. When God is the director of our lives and our marriage, we bring honor both to Him and to each other.

Make no mistake — marriage still takes work! For my husband and me, though, we’ve come to appreciate that the One who instituted marriage also holds the keys to a happy marriage. When we choose His ways, things go better.

Because our marriage experiences are directly related to the decisions we make on a daily basis, every day we face the question afresh: Will we make right choices

Learn How to Cherish your Spouse and Have a Deeper Connection

Month of birth and partner choice in marriage

Abstract

In August 1971 a random sample of 3,392 married couples was drawn from the registery‐office of Amsterdam for the study of the possible relationship between month of birth and partner choice. A statistical analysis of the data gave the following results which are summarized in Fig. 9.

1. MONTH OF BIRTH AND MARRIAGE

(a) Males born in the second half of January seem to have a tendency to marry females, born in the second half of October, significantly more than expected (about 2.3 times).

(b) Males born in April and the first half of May have a tendency to marry females, born in the same period, significantly less than expected (about 1.27 times less)

(c) Males born in the period half June to half July have a tendency to marry females, born in the period from half July to half August, significantly more often than expected (about 1.7 times).

(d) Males as well as females prefer most of all a marriage partner that is born in a part of the year that is closer to the own month of birth than their lowest preferred partner.

(e) There is a significant tendency that for males their most preferred female month is 0 ‐ 2 months earlier or later than the own month of birth, whereas their least preferred female category differs 4–6 months with the male's month of birth.

(f) Females marry more often males born two months later in the year than males born two months earlier.

2. MONTH OF BIRTH AND DIVORCE

(a) Males born in March who married females born in July have an eight times higher chance to divorce than other months of birth combinations.

(b) A similarly high, but less significant, chance to divorce was found for males born in February who married females born in May; for males born in July who married females born in February; for males born in October who married females born in June.

(c) Males born in the second half of November divorce in general more often than other males (2 times more).

(d) There is probably no relation between preference for marrying partners born in particular months and the chance to divorce them.

How to Get Rid of Pimples With Just Salt

Am a Nigerian and I know how it feels to be tormented by pimples, It dealt with me full time. I used all kinds of medications starting from English medicine including creams to native ones all to no avail. Then I started doing another research which I tried and it cleared up everything. Ever heard of sea salt?

This is what it looks like

It is a natural salt gotten from the sea

For those of you who live near the ocean, you may already be using one of our greatest resources for your skin. For the rest of us, or for those of you who are new to this idea altogether, you won’t have the real thing but can still take advantage of it all the same. What are we talking about? Pure natural sea salt — a top acne mediation that works in a very short amount of time, or at least for those that don’t have a severe chronic acne condition.

Most of the time, what we eat and our hormones lead to acne. Despite the myth, It's not chocolate that causes the pimples, it’s actually the dairy and sugar in milk chocolate. Heavy oils that are refined, refined flours and refined grains, refined and added sugar, and processed food in general all also lead to acne. Our skin shows how healthy we are inside, and got bacteria heath has the largest impact on your skin, another reason to care for your face (and overall health) from the inside out.

Now let's talk about how you can apply the sea salt to kill the pimples.

Applying the see salt is easy, make sure everything to you choose to use is properly washed.

Get sufficient warm water, pour a good amount of sea salt in it, steer very well, then allow it to settle for a while. After that, apply on affected areas. Make sure the part of the body you are applying it on is properly washed, then allow it to dry-up on your face, good luck. It worked for me, so it should work for you

9 Nigerian Tribes That Make The Best Wives

Apr 16, 2020 6:26 PM

tribes in Nigeria are beautiful, but some are the best wife materials, and the quality every man want in a woman. Getting married to a woman is more than beauty, education, and being in other rooms.

Urhobo woman is one the most hardworking woman in Nigeria. Other ladies might run and leave their husbands when things are hard, but an Urhobo beautiful woman will never do such. They support their family even if the man marries more than one wife. These qualities make a wife material.

Yoruba beautiful lady come from a culture rich in custom and tradition. Yoruba respect not just the husband but also all her in-laws, and even strangers. The one most important quality for good woman is submission to her husband. Respect is what every man wants in his home and Yoruba lady has that.

The Fulani also made good wife. Outside of the beauty a Fulani posse, they are a good listener to their man. Mostly Muslim follow the way of Prophet Muhammad. They know how wives of the prophet adore and respect their husband. They manage with the little resources the family has. They are also very shy. This quality makes them one of the best to marry.

The Igbos women are very intelligent and industrious. One of the tribes in the world with the most beautiful women. Although their bride price is very high but if you marry any of their women be rest assured, she will always give you financial support.

The Ijaw woman loves her man very well, and she can do anything for him. They are naturally good swimmers, and very acrobatics. Ijaw are very good in other rooms and man will never cheat on them because she will give you all the styles you want.

Calabar's women are very endowed, and they are great cook. There is a saying that the only way through a man's heart is food. You definitely will not stay late at work because you always have a queen waiting for you.

Gbagi women in North Central are very obedient to their husbands. Also, being respectful, they are also good farmers. To marry this beautiful woman is a certain you will not lack food in your house.

Tivs in Benue state, their women are so beautiful. They are very kind to strangers, marry them you are sure of pounding yam and enough pig meat and other Tivs delicacy in your pot. Any great man will love this hospitality.

The last but not least is Hausa-Fulani, one of the most beautiful women in Nigeria. They are predominantly Muslim who are very respectful to their husbands.

5 signs you are wasting your life

Life is precious and we only get one shot at it . Nevertheless, a lot of people spend their life merely passing the time rather than making the most of the short time they have left . 

Young people are especially guilty of this - we are in the springtime of our lives . If ever there was a time to plant a tree , it’s now . Yet most of us don’t do that . Young people spend their time partying, and taking vacations rather than reading , building healthy habits , and investing in themselves. Are you merely passing the time instead of making the most of your one life ? Here are some ways to tell . 

1) you don’t get out of bed quickly upon waking .  If you spend a half hour to an hour poking around on your phone before getting out of bed, you are not making the most of your life . People who have a driving purpose in their life don’t spend time lounging around on their phone in bed . Waking up is no big deal , just the start of another random day . To someone with a purpose, waking up every morning is a refreshing welcome to another day of hard yet meaningful work . 

2) you spend more than an hour or two a day on aimless activities. Some activities are inherently aimless , done only because they are pleasing in the moment. Some activities like this are : spending time on social media watching TV or movies playing video games in small doses, no more than an hour or two a day , these kinds of activities can be an important part of decompressing . Any more than that , though , and you’re going beyond decompressing into wasting your life . 

People with a purpose don’t spend too long doing these sorts of things because they are aware that every hour sucked away by aimless activities us another hour they will never get back .

its not that they try not to spend so much time doing these things - the thought of wasting that much time makes them sick . People with a purpose wouldn’t waste their time this way even if they could . 

3) you don’t fell ready for bed at the end of each day  people whose days are filled with purposeful activities feel tired at the end of the day . Whether it’s mental work or physical work , purposeful activity uses up all your energy and leaves you ready to go to bed each day . When you aren’t making the most of your life , on the other hand , you aren’t tired at the end of the day. You are , quite literally, not making the most of your energy . 

4) you spend more of your time daydreaming, planning , or thinking  snouts the future than you do working to bring about that future , you are not making the most of your life . People who make something of themselves don’t sit around daydreaming about what the future may be like . People who make something of themselves pick a goal for the future and then work hard to make that goal happen . Someone who spends all their time daydreaming is not someone spends all their time doing . 

Think about professional weightlifters . They spend a little bit of their time researching how to lift weights more effectively, and a lot of their time lifting weights. 

5) you worry what others think of you  high achievers are too busy getting things done to worry what others think of them . High achievers May worry about what people who matter think of them , but they don’t worry about what their friends, family, or pop culture think . They are too busy getting things done . If you routinely worry about what your friends , family ,peers ,or pop culture think of you , you may be letting your life slip by . Instead of doing what others approve of , find a guiding purpose that you can be true to even when the world turns against you .