Goal Setting Tips [Goals for 2020 Episode]

In the midst of your expectations for the future, you can get really frustrated when you plan and not see results, feeling like you are walking in circles. 

Setting personal goals is not some form of magic that will suddenly make your dreams come true with the snap of a finger,but they have the power to make your life more purposeful and give you something to look out for.

This is why people set personal goals.

If you have had challenges setting or achieving the goals that you have set already, continue reading...I will share with you tips on how you can set your personal goals.

How to set your personal goals

Setting goals is not about writing unrealistic wishes about what you want for yourself, it is about challenging yourself to achieve more (but realistically).

Step 1: Think about what you want

Many people have only a broad idea of what they want for themselves to have a good life.

It is not bad to wish to have a good life, but it is vague. If you have this kind of goal it will be difficult for you to achieve results.It is important you think about what you want. If you ultimately want a good life, then you should be able to pen down what a good life means to you. Once you can describe what a good life means to you, then it would be easy for you to build goals around it.

💕.What are the things that make me happy?

💕.Why do these things make me happy?

What are the things that I can stop doing that will help me achieve ‘my happiness’     💕.What are the things that I do already that make me happy?

💕.How can I do more of the things that make me happy?

Asking yourself these questions to help you narrow down what you want:At this stage, it is good for you to take a notepad and a pen and put down all the things that you love to do, and things that are important to you.

Step 2: Set 'Big Picture' goals or 'Life Time' goals

When you have an understanding of what you want ultimately, then you can now go ahead and set big-picture goals or life goals.

Setting lifetime goals or big-picture goals gives you an idea of what you want to achieve in your future. It gives you an overall view of different aspects of your life.

To set a big-picture goal, you may have to consider different areas of your life and what you want to achieve in those areas.

Consider the following:

Education–Is there any other knowledge that you want to acquire, what do you need to achieve that goal.

Career - What level do you want to get to in your career and what do you want to achieve

Finance – How much do you want to earn, at what stage, is it related to your career goals

Family – Do you look forward to being a parent, what do you need to achieve that goal.

Physical – Do you want to achieve physical fitness, what area of physical fitness do you want to concentrate

These are just a sample of big-picture or life goals that someone can probably set. You can come up with a better list of your own.You will have to spend more time to brainstorm on the goals and select one goal that best reflects what you want to do. You can also cut down these goals so that you can have specific goals that you want to focus on.

Quick Tip: Make sure the goals that you have set are goals that you sincerely want to achieve.

Step 3: Set smaller goals

Once you have successfully set your big-picture goals or lifetime goals, then the next thing for you to do is to set smaller goals that would help you reach your big-picture goals.

To cut down your goals into smaller actionable ones, you can break it down into the following:

💕A 5-year plan goal that will help you

achieve the big-picture goal.

💕 A one-year plan goal.

💕 Create a six-month plan goal.

      One-month plan goal.

💕 Weekly goals.

💕 Daily to-do-list.<

You should keep in mind that each of these smaller goals should be based on the big-picture goals, and should also help you work towards the ultimate goals that you have created.

You can review your plan from time to time and make sure that they fit into the way you want to become.

Step 4: Set ‘SMART’ Goals

‘SMART’ refers to Specific. Measurable. Attainable. Relevant. Time-Bound.

Understand what each means:

Set Specific Goals

Your goals should be specific, clear and well defined. Setting generalised goals will make it difficult for you to achieve success because the goals will be neither here nor there.

Remember that you are setting goals to give you a sense of direction, so you should make it possible to achieve that by setting specific goals.

Set Measurable Goals

It is important for you to set timelines for the goals that you created so that you can measure the degree of your success.

For example,if your goal is to increase revenue for your business and you don’t set a measurement plan,how would you know when there is an increase or otherwise.

If you just leave your goals at increase revenue for my business without setting up a measurement plan, you would not know the following:

💋. When you achieve a revenue increase       for your business at a particular month      or year.

💋. When you experience a decrease in             your business revenue.

💋. The plans or strategies that helped .              you achieve success.

💋. The things you did wrong and what .            you should learn from.

💋. If you are achieving your goals on .               arithmetic or geometric progressions.

Set Attainable Goals

Don’t set unrealistic goals. You should make sure you set goals that are possible for you to achieve. If you set goals that are unrealistic and unattainable, you will end up feeling like you have failed at achieving success, and this can affect your confidence too.

Notwithstanding, you should not set goals that are too easy to accomplish. You should set goals that are realistic yet challenging.

Set Relevant Goals

You should set goals that are relevant to the direction you want your life to go. Keeping your goals aligned with the direction that you want your life to go will help you stay focused on achieving the bigger picture.

Set Time-Bound Goals

When you are setting a goal, you should set time bounds or deadlines. Setting a deadline will help you know the following:

When you are lagging behind.

When you achieve success and when you should celebrate. 

Setting deadlines helps you develop the spirit of urgency that will push you to do more and eventually achieve more.

Step 5: Set Priorities

It is important that you set priorities when you set goals especially if you set multiple goals. You should give each goal a priority.

Setting priorities for each goal will help you stay on top of all your goals and will prevent you from being overwhelmed by setting too many goals. It will also give you a sense of direction in your goals.

If you have several goals, you should set a scale of preference for your goals and how you want to achieve them.For ecelebrate. 

💋. Start my ACCA Program.

💋. Start planning for a family.

💋. Increase marketing for my business.

 you have these goals.You can now re-structure it based on your scale of preference.Some goals should come before others based on their importance.

Step 6: Make an Action Plan

As much as it is important to set goals, it is also good for you to have an action plan that will help you achieve the goals that you set.

This is one of the most important aspects of setting goals. Many times, people are always focused on the outcome of their goals and not on the process that will lead to achievement.

Writing out the individual steps that will lead to achieving the ultimate goal, and then crossing each step as you complete it will give you the direction you need to achieve your goals.

If you set a big or demanding goal, it is important that you write down the steps so that you can re-visit it when you are confused.

Step 7: Focus on Your Action Plan

It is one thing to set a goal and it is another thing to make sure you achieve the goals. It is important for you to know that setting a goal is not an end on its own, but it is a means to an end.

So if you don’t follow the processes that you made on your action plan, it may be difficult for you to achieve the ultimate goals.

When you have created an action plan, try and build a reminder to keep yourself on track. It is good to make out time to review your goals.

Step 8: Keep Track of Your Progress

Writing down your goals and the processes of achieving them will help you keep track of your progress. Re-visiting your goals and the processes will help you take note of particular successes. Knowing that you are progressing with your goals will encourage you to work harder.

Sometimes keeping track of your progress may not be easy, but you can even set up a process that will help you track. 

- PURGE BABY purge. I delete all my emails, calendars, and todo list. It’s a great feeling to go in the new year without weight or doing things just because we’ve been doing things. It helps me remember which things are really the most important.

- Fantasy Story. In a story format, I write out what I want the end of the year to look like. Get creative and have fun with it.

- Calendering. Once you set your goals, add the bigger ones to your calendar. It makes it easier to know when you’re going to get them done by.

- Put Your goals EVERYWHERE. I list them on my screen, phone and check them DAILY in the strides app.

- Weekly Accountability. I email two of my friends every single week to keep me in check.

- Monthly Reports. Every month I write a report about what happened in the month (work, travel, relationship, etc.).

- Goals vs Systems vs Progress. Do whatever works for you! Goals can help keep things clear. Systems (1 content piece a week) can help get momentum. Progress (grow monthly active readers) can help bridge the gap between goals and systems.

- Review last year's goals. I won’t spend this episode doing it but you SHOULD review and compare how you did and what you can learn for this upcoming year. Also, CHANGE your goals in the 6-month mark.

- Unplanned is the most fun. Some of my most favorite things have been unplanned. Going biking and getting lost or going on an impromptu margarita tour.

For example;

You can ask a friend to help you keep track of your progress depending on what you want to achieve. If you want to achieve working out every day, you can ask a friend to remind you of your plans and keep track of your processes.

Are you getting married? Shine your eyes Get these 5 important test done before the wedding or live in regret.

We have heard of people who carry the photos of those they intend to marry to men of God for prayers, to find out if he or she is the right one or they are compatible. But many of such people forget what is most important, which is medical test.  

Marriage is no child’s play, so before you decide to walk down the aisle with the love of your life, you need to go for some medical tests to avoid unwanted and unneeded stress and problems later in marriage.

1. Infertility test

Since there are no clear symptoms of infertility, this will help check how healthy the ovaries are and the sperm count.

Bisi and her husband, Lanre, took a decision as Christians not to defile the marriage bed till their wedding night. 

First night as a married couple, Lanre complains of being tired. Days become weeks and weeks months, and it is one excuse after the other. Bisi later finds out her husband has erectile dysfunction. If only they had gone for medical checkup before the wedding.

Another scenario, Nkechi and Musa have been married for 3 years without children. They finally decide to see a doctor and find out Nkechi is not fertile.Devastating right?

If you are planning on having children in the future, you have to take this test to avoid

unnecessary biological, psychological, social and emotional trauma that comes with being unable to bear children.

When you know these results before the wedding, it helps you take informed decisions beforehand.

2. Blood group compatibility test

If you are planning on having children, this is another important test not to overlook. Crucial in blood tests is the Rhesus factor, which if overlooked can create complications during pregnancy.

The Rhesus factor is either positive or negative. If a Rhesus negative woman marries a Rhesus positive husband, there is a greater chance of rhesus incompatibility. Therefore, precautions need to be taken to avoid Rhesus incompatibility issues during pregnancy.

Technological advancement has provided a solution for Rhesus incompatibility. So, with this test, you can be better prepared ahead of time.

3. STD test

Marrying someone who has sexually transmitted diseases can cause serious problems in the marriage as some are life threatening. It is good for you and your partner to get tested for STD so you don’t have any surprises when you get married. The earlier you know, the better. This way, you can decide if you want to go ahead with the wedding or not.

4. Genetically transmitted conditions test

It is important to get tested for genetic conditions as they can be easily transferred from one generation to the other. At least, you get to know the medical background of the family you’re marrying to.

This test also helps find out whether one or both partners are carriers of the sickle cell gene (AS). Timely diagnosis will assist couples make informed choices to avoid birthing children who are sicklers (SS).

5. Mental health assessment

With the kind of news we get to hear these days of things going on in marriages, this is one test that should not be overlooked. We have heard stories of brutal things spouses do to their better half and you’re left wondering how a sane person would have done such.

Some of those violent behaviors you see your spouse exhibiting are not normal. He or she might be mentally unstable.

If you do not want to end up with a mentally unstable and violent man or woman as spouse,please take this test.If you are not bothered about living with a mentally unstable partner, still take the test so you can prepare well and be equipped for the challenges ahead.

the way we all cook rice is killing us,see best method.

It has been revealed that the way people cook their rice can end up affecting their health very seriously.

In the average home, rice is a must eat food on a daily basis, especially when you have children around.

It's so easy to cook - or so many of us assume, what with the unceremonious ways we pour it into the pot and cook it in a jiffy! Yet, researchers are saying that the way we cook rice can lead to diseases and death!

New experiments show that by simply boiling the stuff in a pan until the water has steamed out can expose rice lovers to poison arsenic.

Rice becomes contaminated with industrial toxins and pesticides as it grows. Arsenic has been lined to heart disease, diabetes and cancer.

Although popular belief that traces of arsenic are killed when rice is cooked, the truth is that they are only expelled if the rice is soaked overnight.

Researchers found that the steamed out method left only traces of arsenic

When the rice was soaked overnight, toxin-levels went down 80%.

Your best bet is to not only soak it, but then wash and rinse it until the water's clear, before draining and eventually boiling in a saucepan. Make sure you follow a ratio of five parts water to one part rice.

It's already known that rice can lead to other problems,like severe food poisoning.An agency revealed that Uncooked rice can contain spores of bacteria that can cause food poisoning.

When the rice is cooked, the spores can survive. Then, if the rice is left standing at room temperature, the spores will multiply and may produce poisons that cause vomiting or diarrhoea.

Reheating the rice won't get rid of these poisons. So, the longer cooked rice is left at room temperature, the more likely it is that poisons produced could stop the rice being safe to eat.

It's best to serve rice when it has just been cooked. If that isn't possible, cool the rice as quickly as possible (ideally within one hour) and keep it in the fridge for no more than one day until reheating.

Three Powerful Laws Of Money You Must Obey To Be Rich

The average African man believes that money is controlled by some extraneous and overwhelming forces that man should not bother to control. We tend to believe that those who are wealthy only make it by a stroke of luck.

Whereas, money is governed by principles. And when money is not controlled by principles/laws, it is temporary. Hence, we need to acquaint ourselves with laws that control money in order to gain financial freedom. 

These laws are highlighted and explained below;

(1) Money Is Hidden Inside The Problem You Solve

Many of us run away from challenges. We tend to avoid them by all means. Whereas, the money we are all looking for is embedded in the problems we solve.

For example, fashion designers solve the problems that is related to clothing.They help people design their clothes.The problems most people have is the inability to sew and design their clothes.

However, as fashion designers solve this problem, they earn money. Any problem you solve is meant to enrich your pocket. Spiritual leaders solve spiritual problems and they are rewarded monetarily. So, if you don't have the ability to solve any problem.It is impossible for you to be rich.

Hence, we all need to improve our skills and develop our capacity to solve problems.

The person that trivializes the importance of competence is in for many struggles in the bid to be wealthy in life.Money demands that you begin to solve problems. As you solve these problems, money will flow into your direction. There are transportation, spiritual, health, internal, educational challenges etc. 

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Start solving any of these problems and you will gradually become rich.

You can't become rich without solving problem. The riches you acquire without solving problems is temporary. Develop your skills. Work on yourself and start rendering services to people and you are on your way to becoming rich.

(2) Money Flies Away From Where It Is Abused To Where It Is Multiplied

It is imperative for everyone to have money management skills. Because you will soon lose the money you mismanage. Abuse of money often lead to lose of wealth. Are you the type who squander money? Do you often spend money on frivolities?

Money automatically leaves the hands of those who mismanage it and goes to those who multiply money. How do you multiply money? You multiply money by investing the little you have to make more.

Those who abuse money are those who spend money impulsively without multiplying it. Hence, we all need to develop money management skills so as to increase our wealth.

Avoid buying products to impress people. The rich hardly buy things that will not produce more money for them. Start acquiring assets. Avoid buying liabilities.

Assets are the things that put more money to your pocket while liabilities take money out of your pocket. If a car will not increase your income, you don't need to buy it. Firstly, you don't need to go for things that bring comfort if you are not rich yet.

Build your wealth before seeking comfort. At times, we lose a lot of money because we want to be comfortable. Beware! Multiply your money and you will become stinking rich.

(3) Money That Is Gathered In A Dishonest Way Will Never Last

You may not like this but it is nothing but the truth. Duping people to acquire quick money will always produce thorn in your flesh. Do not forget that as you dupe people.

The victims will place curses on you. And curses are powerful because they have great effect on people's lives.I have yet to see a man who has become the richest man in the world by cheating people. And if such person becomes rich, his riches will only last for few years.

Stop participating in schemes that promise quick and sudden wealth. They will only dupe you and make you regret.

Start a business and invest in it. Work on your life and make your money gradually. Don't be in haste be patient. You will be tempted to get rich quickly.

If you follow these principles dogmatically, you will enjoy an enduring wealth.

The 8 Most Overlooked Reasons Why Marriages Fail.

............. WE ALL KNOW FINANCIAL PROBLEMS AND POOR COMMUNICATION CAN CAUSE MARITAL PROBLEMS, BUT WHAT OTHER THREATS ARE LURKING IN THE DISTANCE?........... 

01. Lack of Investment

e think of investments in regard to money. But e forget about the time investment and ducation investment that we need to have in arning how to maintain successful marriages.

Why do we think we don’t need any skills when oing into a marriage? What other job do we sign p for without any training?” asks Sadler.Sadler’s dvice includes simply investing time in each ther that may include 2-3 hours of your ndivided attention for your partner and of course seeking out couples’ counseling and/or books to elp you navigate the obstacles of a marriage.

02. Unforgiveness

ur inability to truly forgive our partners in arriage is one of the major reasons that they ail. True forgiveness is when we are able to treat ur partners as if the offense never happened hich proves to be very difficult for couples. We re constantly reliving the trauma of past xperiences which never gives the wounds the pportunity to heal.

03. Not Showing Up for Your Spouse

o many things can happen in the course of a arriage as Dr. Bradford mentioned. As we xperience the ups and downs of life, it’s portant that our partners “show up,” in some of he most difficult experiences whether that’s sing a home, the death of a child, or a sick arent. Sadler advises the importance of being ble to ask your partner “What is it that you eed?” instead of making assumptions. She cites

major issue as the tendency we have to simply ant to fix the problem. “Every situation doesn’t eed to be fixed. 

Sometimes you just need to how up,” warns Sadler. Showing up includes eing able to communicate that you may not now what you need at the time, but finding the pportunities to talk through these tough ituations and be honest with your partner.

04. Forgetting the Friendship

omehow the terms “husband” and “wife” add so uch more pressure than we’ve experienced in ur relationships prior to the marriage. Often imes, without realizing it, we forget about the riendship that was formed in the dating process nd get so far away from it after the nuptials. adler advises that we approach marriage with riendship at the forefront and learn to be able to ommunicate with our partners from a friend erspective without always being so easily o,  

ffended.

05. Unspoken Expectations

his is definitely an area that seeps into our bility to communicate but is a very specific part f the puzzle that is often missed. Not only do we nore an opportunity to communicate our xpectations, but we also begin to act on those xpectations not being met “We come from ifferent backgrounds and expect different things nd never communicate that to our partners. omen never let men know how crucial security

to us. 

We think men should know to provide, rotect, etc., but it’s rarely discussed in detail. en are being brought up in single parent ouseholds and have no examples of what it eans to be that security,” says Sharon Sadler of OS Marriage Network.

06. Lack of Flexibility

Even if a couple has done their due diligence nd discussed and agreed on the big topics like inances and parenting styles, there needs to be oom in the plans for things to change. A artner's ideas about working outside of the ome may change after a child enters the family, r health issues could arise that impact your exual relationship,” says Joy Harden Bradford, h.D. “I think the key to managing changes that ere not expected is to remember that you and our partner are on the same team and should ut your heads together to tackle the issue and ot each other. If you find it difficult to do this on our own then scheduling an appointment with a ouple's therapist may be a great strategy to help ou both get some clarity and perspective.”

07. Familial or Societal Pressure

ften times our families have thoughts on who e should marry. Women tend to also be racing he clock when it comes to getting the husband nd the family started so they are not marked ith the scarlet letter of being “30 something and ingle.” This, Johnson believes can lead to aking rash decisions in marriage that in turn an lead to divorce. Johnson addresses the ressure that we face as women when it comes to marriage. “At some point, people will nderstand the danger of living and loving for thers to which they will want to leave the arriage. In that case, it may be the best decision for both parties involved. It's never too te to find yourself and most of us need to find urselves every few years.”

08. Lack of Self-Knowledge

There's a mix of people that never explored what hey like or need and there are others that go with hat their family thinks is good for them. 

These people date who looks good on paper for the amily and for a societal image.Whether this is to it in or stand out, depends on the individual and heir life experiences,”Jaynay C. Johnson, MFT explains. 

“My advice to overcome this is to take our time getting to know and love yourself. understand what you like and don't like.document how situations make you feel and if ou are able to overcome them quickly or not.talk your feelings out with your partner, friends ortherapist so you don't internalize emotions.finally ,accept that you will change over time. hat you like at 25 may not be what you like at 0 and that's okay.”

How Destinies are Stolen and Used for Rituals in Nigeria and Those who are Responsible.

Majority of Nigerians are poor because their destinies have been stolen and used for rituals, less you thing ritual involves making sacrifices in shrines, in this context it means frustrating peoples creativity and/or exploiting their potentials for the benefit of few, the ritualists.

Nigeria is endowed with talented people with enormous potentials and are destined to do great things in life, but how come most Nigerians are poor. This is because some people have made it a career the act of suppressing and oppressing people’s potentials and abilities. These oppressors, suppressors, destiny thieves and killers are in government, the politicians.,

A typical Nigerian shrine where people go for ritual purposes

Not all Nigerian politicians are ritualists, but most of them are: They have made it a ritual to consistent loot and steal from the nation’s treasury with impunity. This criminal and evil acts has ruined so many destinies in this way:

Denied people the Privilege to Quality education

Education, quality education, is the key to success. But the ritualists in government who were beneficiaries of public education have sabotage the public education system in Nigerian, they have stolen funds meant for provision of quality education for the common people and used same to enrolled their kids in expensive and quality private schools. They are literarily stole the destinies of millions of Nigerians and hand them over to their children.

Most Public schools today are destiny killing grounds, from primary to university – and some of these politicians would come on air and shamelessly declare that most Nigeria graduates are unemployable, who stole their potentials! And what is the government doing to fix the education sector, nothing. This is because they gain so much in keeping bulk of the population uneducated or not well educated.

The make sure People remain religious

Politicians rob people of their destinies by insisting people remain very religious, this is why Nigeria is regarded as the most religious nation in the world. The politicians often tell people to pray and while their eyes are closed they snatch away their destinies. Religious people attribute failures and hardship in life to act of divinity, God wants it to be so. They don’t blame their leaders, and the leaders make sure the people don’t.

Almajiri children, victims of Political ritualist

Northern Nigeria is the region most affected by these ritualists. The northern elites and politician make sure religion remain primal in people’s minds and life, while the leaders themselves are not upright – else, who collects bribe in dollars but has the moral right to forbid men and women sharing a public means of transportation. The northern elite, like the politicians, make sure the masses understand that it is the wish of Allah for some to be rich and others to remain poor. The politicians and rich are not under any obligation to elevate the poor through empowerment and good education, but by giving out alms or sadaka, which the poor must beg for. That is why there are many beggars in the North.

Most of these beggars are not suffering from any impediments, those who are handicap are not in any way incapacitated, instead of going out and use their inner potentials and ability to create wealth, and they are subdued by the conviction that it is the will of God for them to exist as destitutes. While the poor religious people remain poor, the nominal-religious rich becomes richer.

Denial of basic social amenities

Destinies are frustrated and killed when basic social amenities are denied, such as available food, affordable and clean water, good road networks, electricity, effective communication system, and good health facilities.The political ritualists have stolen all the money meant for the essential provisions of these services hence in the process stunted people’s growth. If these amenities were sufficiently provided and effective, people would spend less time worrying and engaged themselves instead in productive endeavours and discover theirs potentials in the process. But the money meant for provision of such had been siphon by political ritualists therefore making it impossible for many to achieve or to reach their destinies.

A typical bad road in Nigeria, evidence of bad governance. 

They sacrifice peoples destinies to the monsters of insecurity

The worse thing these ritualists do is to kill destinies, which is rampant to due to high rate of insecurity. Most Nigerians today are just walking about to find end means, but there is no assurance they would ever see the end of the day or reach where they are headed. Terrorist kill people, criminal herdsmen invade and murder entire families and villages, terminating life and summarily ending people’s destinies – how many people who ought to have solved Nigeria’s problem have ended in such manner.

Insecurity has transcended criminals ending lives, state arm forces has engage in extra-judicial killings: Civilians are shot at and killed by police men and other armed operatives. Instead of securing the society, those whose duty it was to protect lives and keep the peace are the ones terrorizing the society. This is how politicians steal destinies.

Boko Haram, terrorizing Nigeria for over 10 years. Some political ritualists are making fortune from terror. 

How the use people destinies to remain in power

These politicians would want to remain in power by all means, so they begin to use people’s destinies to gain power. Many graduates who had survived the assault on their education in public schools and who ought to be angry at the ritualists, have today surrendered their destinies to the ritualists in exchange for N-Power and campaign tokens. Some serve as online sycophants and bullies for politicians. No good and respectable jobs for them, the lucrative government jobs in the nation are reserved for the children of these politicians – of the wealthy in he society.

In northern Nigeria, during election season the ritual habit of going back to the constituent to reap benefit of the alms sowed begins; beggars suddenly become useful as voters, also the children whom the society had condemn to destitution and denial of education, the almajiris, become essential tools for electoral victories. In the end, this wicked people are voted back into power and the circle continues.

Nigerians most desist from the habit of running to spiritual houses seeking protection against destiny thieves and ritualists and begin to look where the problem lie, government. Politicians are the real ritualists who constantly steal people’s fortunes to enrich themselves while ruining destinies in the process. If Nigerians fail to fight for their destinies, the ritual shall continue until it consumes even the destinies of children unborn.

What to do when God is yet to answer your prayers.

Christianity is not a Religion, it's the Way of Life; the Way of eternal Life (John 14:6). The major reason why we are on earth is to earn immortality from our Creator, never lose focus of that. Inability to wait on our CREATOR has made many humans to turn to witches, satanism, demon worshipers, etc. God has vowed that HE would make those that love HIM, beyond ego and physical reward of this temporary life, to live forever.

💋.  To prove that we shall not turn our back against HIM when HE transforms us to immortal nature, we must do what the Father of Faith did. He waited on GOD till he was 99 years old. He was even still waiting even when all his friends and foes have turned him to a laughing stock.

💋. Now, generations before us, our own generation and generations yet to be born shall forever continue to celebrate him for never giving up on our Creator. 

Very possible that Abraham was not the first to pass through the test among Humanity, but he was the very first to pass the test of loving God more than personal desire and ego.

Desire to show off success and impress people has turned many against their wonderful Creator.

How do we ensure that we don't lose focus or get carried away by discouragement during the course of waiting on God?

* By always reminding ourselves that this Life is very real, satan is real, God is real, eternal Life that awaits us is real

* By filling our minds with HIS Words that strengthens us.

* One thing that has been found to be inestimably useful is the act of listening to real Christian songs that presents deep word of God in melodious format. This has helped many to groom and maintain the trait of our father of Faith in the face of trials and waiting on the Lord. Scripture says Faith cometh by hearing the Word of God.

Real Gospel Songs are the ones written and sang by the Inspiration of the Holy Spirit. That's why they have the capacity of transforming and empowering our spirits to conquer "the lust of the eyes, the lust of the flesh and the pride of life".

Transform Your Body Shape And Regulate Your Temperature By Taking 'Pap' At Least Thrice Weekly.

Pap is an excellent source of potassium and contains zero amount of sodium, making it a perfect food for people with high blood pressure and those who want to maintain healthy blood pressure or avoid developing hypertension. Another advantage of taking potassium-rich foods like pap is that it helps in lessening the effects of sodium in the body while also easing tension in your blood vessel walls, and thus shielding you against myriads of health conditions that could’ve to sprout forth

💋. Ever wondered why pap is one of the most recommended foods for nursing mothers?

Pap contains a high amount of water and some other components that promote easy, an adequate flow of breast milk for lactating mothers.It also helps in regaining strength after suffering from one illness or the other, not forgetting that it is again an easy-to-digest food–a friend to the digestive system.

Are you thin and wish to add up weight here is the easiest way.

MATERIALS:

1.one fresh egg, (Please ensure you buy fresh egg for fear of Salmonella Bacteria)

2.one tin liquid milk,

3.one pap "ogi.akamu"

HOW TO USE:

Put one piece of pap in cup don't add water just open the milk and empty it in the same cup you put pap then use the milk to press the pap till it dissolves with a spoon then break the egg add all both the white and yoke mix all and drink. Repeat it for ten days and you will thank me later.

If you have Ulcer even on the third day, the ulcer will go forever.

4 Things Most Old People Regret Not Doing In Their Young Days

💋. Living or just spending time with the elderly ones in your society can be a real eye-opener. Especially in this current age where young people are more confused and anxious about the future, the wisdom of real-life experiences can teach us to be better.

Yes, it’s true that no two persons are the same; even twins lead completely different lives.Nonetheless, the lessons learnt by a person can be useful in the life of another. That’s why his article is necessary for every young person out there. Here are 4 regrets that old people commonly have about their younger years;

Not being health conscious

The ‘YOLO’ (you only live once) mindset didn’t come too life in the 2010s. Since as far back as civilization goes, people have had lifestyles that seemed reckless and risky to their less-extroverted mates. One sad truth however is that most of them suffer for it in their future. The two main causes of death in elderly across the world are both diseases to the circulatory system.Others are respiratory diseases and all kinds of cancer. 

💋. The accumulation of countless nights of drinking and smoking may not be the direct causes of these life ending complications, but they sure don’t help to prevent them. Most elderly people openly show their regret of not taking their health seriously, especially since the chronic diseases make old age more miserable than it can be.

💋. What’s even scarier for our generation is the prevalence of uncontrolled use of powerful psychoactive substances with drastic side effects. If you’re interested in enhancing your life expectancy and enjoying old age, then being a little more health conscious will help.

Not saying/acting how they really felt

We all have moments that pass us by, to never be relived. These moments require our full attention and radical honesty, but it’s the norm to stifle this part of ourselves and say/do what the other party won’t dislike us for.A lot of old people talk about key moments in their lives where a bit of honesty might have saved them a lot of emotional downs. They encourage us to be less dishonest and more open about our feelings, but with a bit of moderation to avoid coming off as anti-social.

Not taking finances seriously at a much younger age. 

The thing about being financially stable is that it takes a lot of willpower and dedication, which are abundant in your 20s and 30s. What many old people have their retirement plans to fall back on, they keep pointing out the numerous benefits on getting enough money soon in life. It’s a terrible thing to be old and broke, and no one wants that.

Not travelling as much as they like

Apart from experiencing new cultures and meeting new people, visiting new places opens the mind to the easily forgotten oneness in the world. One thing that old people regret a lot is not going round the world and seeing new places. Travelling remains one of the most rewarding things for humans to do since the beginning of the world; that’s way you should do more of it.

HOW TO STAY HEALTHY DURING HARMATTAN

Harmattan, defined as “a dry, dusty easterly or north-easterly wind on the West African coast, occurring from December to February,” is here! And the dry, cold, and dusty weather can make you sick.

We should take the following necessary steps to cope with this season:

Drink plenty of water to prevent dehydration. 

Wash your eyes regularly to avoid red eyes which is common in during harmattan

Cover your nose and mouth with a mask or towel when it is dusty. 

Avoid or reduce outdoor activities, especially if you have allergies

Stay indoors to avoid dust inhalation of harmful particles coming with the wind

Wear clothes that keep your body warm

Come to the clinic if you have red, itchy, and watery eyes.

Get medical help if you have running, itchy, sneezing, and stuffy nose

Keep the doors and windows closed

Always use moisturizers to prevent dry skin and dry palms. 

Use lip balm to prevent cracked lips

This season can trigger asthma and allergies. Asthmatic patients should always keep the inhaler handy and avoid dust as much as possible. This dry cold dusty season triggers sickle cell disease (SCD) as well. Patients should drink plenty of water and avoid outdoor activities as much as possible.

The Miracles Charcoal Performs And How It Can Change Your Life For Good.

Charcoal is something you must have on you all the time. In Case you never paid much attention, it's time to do it.

Here are the benefits of charcoal you never thought of:

1. Does your shoe smell bad? Just buy charcoal and put it in it.

2. Do you have a bad smell in your room? Drop Charcoal in the place that you think the smell might come from.

3. Does your refrigerator or freezer have a smell? Put a piece of coal in it.

4. Do you have a strong body smell? Just make a charcoal powder and use. Charcoal is very good to get rid of the bad smell.

5. Have you ever wondered why your parents always pick up the ashes of the coal pot to pour in the hen or toilet before sweeping? It was to get rid of the smell.

6. If you want your vegetables to be fresh all the time, make a solution with charcoal and leave your vegetables.

7. Nowadays, people complain about the use of fertilizer on plants and vegetables, making them unhealthy and toxic. If you have charcoal, you don't have to worry about it. All you need to do is leave the vegetables in a charcoal solution during the night and it will take care of the toxins.

8. If you suspect that a food contains too many chemicals, simply drop them in a charcoal solution for a few hours and you are ready to leave.

9. If you want to whiten your teeth, don't pay attention to all these ads on chemicals and bleaching technology. Just get charcoal and catch a plantain stem. Make a powder on charcoal, crush the end of the plantain stem, soak in charcoal powder and brush your teeth with a week.

10. Did your peanut or palm soup go wrong? You don't have to worry about everything. Just put it on fire and drop a piece of charcoal. This will extract all the bad taste and smell and restore soup to its fresh state.

11. Do you have a situation where someone's injury has become so infected that doctors say they have to cut the affected area? Don't insist on it, take a large amount of coal powder and pour it on the wound. This will help extract all the poison from the wound and help it heal faster. If you have a cup and you want to treat it quickly, take charcoal powder and pour on it.

12. Do you have pimples, acne or skin disease that you really want to get rid of or do you want a very smooth face or skin? All you need is charcoal. Make a thick solution and apply it on your body and leave it for a few hours before taking your bath. It will leave your skin fresh and fresh.

13. Do you have a persistent stain in your kitchen, bathroom or tiles? You really need charcoal to get rid of it. I know you imagine how this black terrazzo product can actually eliminate stains? Try it, it works like magic.

14. You got hurt, pour some coal powder and you'll see.

Eat These 12 Foods To Boost Your Sex Life But Avoid Alcohol

Sex, for most people, is a touchy subject. Even though it’s the most natural thing and the sole reason were all alive.

Despite shying away from the topic, everyone desires great sex as it improves your mood and forms deeper bonds between you and your partner.

There are many ways to improve your sex life including medication, therapy, and surgery.

“Any healthy food is good for sex,” said Sexologist, Dr Vijay Singhal, as he explains the concept of foods for sex and how they can improve the libido.

“One must note that alcohol is bad for a healthy sex life - it increases the desire but decreases the performance.”

Here we’ll talk about foods that have what it takes you give that extra boost you need.

Walnuts

Walnuts improve the quality of sperm. It is known to improve the shape, movement and vitality of the sperm. Include walnuts in your diet to improve fertility.

Garlic

Garlic before a date sounds like a bad idea. The pungent herb is a natural blood thinner often used to prevent high blood pressure, high cholesterol, and heart disease.

The anticoagulant properties help ensure plenty of blood flow to your nether regions. You and your partner can both benefit from a healthy dose of garlic before an amorous evening. If you’re both eating it, nobody will mind the strong breath.

Strawberries and raspberries

The seeds of these fruits are loaded with zinc which is essential for sex for both, men and women. If women have high levels of zinc their bodies find it easier to prepare for sex. In men, zinc controls the testosterone level which is responsible for producing sperm. It is important that men load up on zinc as their zinc levels reduces during intercourse.

Avocados

Folic acid and vitamin B6 are both necessary for a healthy sex drive. Folic acid pumps the body with energy, while vitamin B6 stabilises the hormones.

Watermelon

Watermelon improves your erection and increases your libido. They also contain citrulline which releases amino acids and arginine in the body. Arginine is responsible for vascular health.

Almonds

Almonds contain arginine which improves circulation and relaxes blood vessels. This amino acid found in almonds helps you maintain an erection.

Chocolate

Dark chocolate releases serotonin and endorphins that improves your mood. It doesn’t improve libido but you will not be a grouch.

Eggs

Consume eggs for healthy erection. Eggs contain amino acid L-arginine that can improve erectile dysfunction.

Peaches

Vitamin C present in peaches improves sperm count and the quality of the sperm. Peaches contain high levels of vitamin C that is great for reducing infertility.

Coffee

Coffee is a stimulant, hence spikes your sex drive. Coffee can stimulate the brain to heighten arousal.

Steak

Steak is a great ingredient to boost your sex drive–it contains zinc, vitamin B, iron and protein. These compounds are essential for both men and women as they help improve the libido.

5 Ways To Control Anger

Do you have a bad temper when something or someone upsets you? How do you handle it? Do you throw things, punch walls, or do some other kind of damage? You yell and scream, say things that hurt people's feelings, and once you calm down, you regret. Regardless of how your anger manifests the reality is that your inability to handle situations calmly may be doing more damage than you realize.

Everyone experiences emotions and we all certainly at some points in our lives experience anger. But how do you control that anger and stop it from hurting both you and the people you love? Here are 5 ways to control anger.

1. Learn To Identify Situations Or Circumstances That Upset You

What makes you mad? Because until you can identify what situations really just take you to level 12, you're never going to be able to control it. Once you identify these situations or circumstances that make you super pissed or upset or losecontrol, then you can try not to be or get yourself in those situations.

2. Identify The Anger As Soon As It Starts

Usually, when we get upset, it builds. Anger isn’t something thatjust comes banging out all of a sudden. It starts somewhere and then graduates into something bigger. Now, it can gradually increase fast and escalate quickly, but if you can identify thatfeeling that you get when you start to get intensely angry or upset, then you can deal with it. If you can identify the feeling when it first starts, you can do things to help you not escalate and really, it's this escalation that gets things way out of handand out of control.

3. Think Before You Speak

This is really a tough one, I know. You see, those words just want to come out and fly, but the issue is that once it's out there in space you can't take it back and words a lot of times can hurtpeople much more deeply and serverely than physical violence. A lot of times saying something horrible to somebody can be much worse than getting punched in the face, so always think before you speak.

4. Practice Relaxation Techniques

Practice those relaxation techniques when your temper flares, perform deep breathing exercises, repeat a calming word or phrase such as “it’s okay, calm down,” or picture a relaxingscene. You might do a few yoga poses, write in a journal, or even listen to music -whatever it takes to encourage relaxation.

5. Do Not Hold a Grudge

Forgive; don't allow anger and a host of other negative feelings crowd out the positive ones. Do not allow yourself to beswallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice. The truth is, if you can forgive someone who angered you and not hold a grudge, you both might learn from the situation. After all, it is unrealistic to expect everyone to behave exactly the wayyou want them to at all times.

We all get angry, some of us more than others but learning how to control that anger and react more positively to it is not just generally a good idea, but it could reduce your risk for heart disease. Use these 5 tips to control anger.

7 hot skills that can pay you 500k per month from home this 2020

Happy New Year to you! This new year will definite pay us by God's grace. Many people don't know what I am about to share with you today.

💋. Some years ago, I stumbled on a young guy on Facebook. He was sharing his story of how he was earning as much as $1500 a month by offering various skills online and getting paid. This is not like other online businesses, so he didn't start with any capital. From there, he moved on to invest his earnings in other businesses and he is now a big boy today.

💋. What he was doing back then is known as freelancing. Freelancing is when you offer your skills to various people or businesses online and get paid. Yes, like many others, I knew about freelaning too but the problem was that, I didn't know how to make it work for me then. Because more people and businesses are coming online these days, freelancing is in greater demand than ever.

Here is a list of 7 high demand skills that people are always paying for online:

(1) Writing & Editing

(2) Voice over

(3) Webpage designs

(4) Doodle video creation

(5) Graphic designs

(6) Subtitling & Transcribing

(7) Video editing. 

You can easily learn any of these skills and begin to use them to earn some extra money

In 2020 Are You Still A Weak Man? Eat These 4 Things To Become Strong And Powerful

Each man needs his body to be sound and solid, for which he expends a great deal of things, however these days because of poor way of life and unfortunate propensities of eating, numerous individuals experience the ill effects of the issue of shortcoming at the most punctual age.

On the off chance that you likewise need to dispose of the issue of shortcoming, at that point ought to dependably eat 4 things：

1. Egg

Egg is an awesome wellspring of calcium, sodium, potassium, nutrient A, nutrient B, nutrient E and omega 3, which produces vitality in men’s body. Hence, every men ought to eat at any rate eggs in morning.

2. Milk

By devouring milk, our body gets rich measures of protein and calcium and lifts our vitality level. In this way, you should devour a glass of milk day by day before dozing.

3. Banana

By taking banana, it attempts to expand blood volume in the body. By expending 1 banana daily, the body of the individual begins to be enthusiastic in a couple of days.

4. Date

Due to the consumption of dates, our body gets a lot of supplements and vitality, which is experiencing men’s concern of shortcoming. Men should take the dates every day. Numerous individuals likewise prefer to have milk and dates in the day by day in their morning meal.

6 Things To Do When You Are About To Be Raped

Rape is forcing sexual intercourse upon another person without consent or against their will.

Rape is never something you plan or want. it may be by a total stranger or someone familiar. 

NB these schemes may not certainly stop the rape but will reduce the chances of a successful rape. This topic is focused on female rape by a stranger on the streets or lonely places

1. Carry A Little Weapon. 

Women who walk alone at night are always advised to carry with them, something small but harmful in their purses; things such as a table knife, steel pen or a pepper spray and perfume which can disconcert if aimed and sprayed in the eyes. Hold it in your hands while approaching a lonely road. You can pick up a big stone or bottle from the streets if there are any. Don't be afraid to use it in self defense and flee the scene immediately.

2. Scream or Negotiate. 

If the scene isn't completely deserted, scream for help. Please note that this tactic is not always useful if the rapist is armed. If he is armed, try to negotiate . A street rapist is a likely thug, offer him money, jewelry or something materialistic for your release.

3. Fight or Struggle.

Two things can happen in a fight or struggle

a. you could fight your way out of danger (always aim for the eyes and male sex organ which is the penis when throwing blows)

b. the other thing that can happen when you struggle is that you cause him to scratch or hit you; not such a good option but it will serve as proof of rape to the police or right authorities especially if you've seen the rapist's face and can identify him anytime when asked to do so.

4. Disgust Him.

Spit on yourself,fart,belch,shed tears (which could cause sympathy also comes with cough and cattarh), throw up if you can, make yourself look less appealing and attractive just to turn him off. This becomes necessary when 1,2 and 3a doesn't work

5. Never Beg And Never Insult A Rapist.

Begging could be a major turn on to a rapist, he feels intoxicated with power and will act like the animal he is. Do not also further provoke him by calling him names or insulting his family, you could end up dead on the streets.

6.When running away don't just run towards your original destination run quickly towards the direction of the light, public or even the police, scream help as you run If you managed to knock him out the first time. If you managed to elude him the first time,chances are he will come after you harder and angrier the second time. If you were released, just run away from the scene as quickly as possible before he changes his mind. You may not be lucky twice so RUN. 

These tactics could come in handy but if you can stay away from thugs and lonely places, please do so because as they always say, you are better safe than sorry.

8 Habits That Make You Old Faster than your age,

1.You put-on too much Make-up

Wearing excessive amounts of makeup , especially oil-based products, can obstruct your skin pores and cause outbreaks,

which causes premature lines and wrinkles which make you age faster( Grow Old).

2. Bad Body posture

Poor posture deflects the backbone of its normal alignment , and as a result, the muscles and bones become abnormally tense and make you old beyond your age.

3. Not Wearing Sunscreen

If you don’t take the time to apply sunscreen before spending time outside, you won’t have any protection against the aging effects of the sun! Sun exposure contributes to wrinkles, age spots, and sagging skin.

4. Alcohol

The more of it you consume, the more dehydrated your body will get. This means alcohol sucks up all the moisture on your skin that keeps it healthy and flowing.

5. Being dehydrated

We always hear that we need to drink enough water, and this is more important than you might think. Chronic dehydration can decrease the skin’s natural elasticity. 

6. A bad diet

If you eat processed foods, lots of oils or red meats, and other similar junk foods, you’re building up inflammation within the body that can lead to the formation of wrinkles which make you grow old. 

7. Lack of sleep

Adults need at least 7 to 8 hours of sleep each night. Not getting enough sleep results to shortens of life and wrinkle of your skin.

8. Sugary drinks

Sugary drinks may lead to the development of metabolic disease.This is because it causes the aging of the cells, and therefore ages your entire body before its time.