WHO CHEAT MORE IN A RELATIONSHIP MAN OR WOMAN.

Women are not always victims of cheating as we have been made to believe. These stats and figures seem to be proof.

The occurrences of cheating and its effects on relationships cannot even be argued or denied.

What can be argued, however, is the popular perception people have about the major perpetrators of the vile act.

Many times when we hear of cheating, many are quick to link men to its commonness. And that is really understandable. The numerous cheating stories shared on social media and the Internet are posted by more women than men. Seeing this, it’ll seem that men are breaking hearts and betraying trust more than women.

But is this really conclusive evidence of anything? Facts, stats that show that women cheat more than men Well, it certainly seems so.

There’s a video circulating on social media where a female relationship expert tells Hafeez and Chris , the anchors of the Roommates Podcast that in her experience, women actually cheat than men , and of course, the anchors were both taken aback. We were, too.

“It is absolutely true,” she says to establish her claim that women are worse cheats than men.

When asked again, she answers again with a specific “yes , it is very true.”

Hers is not the only claim indicting women of being more terrible at cheating than we previously thought.

Recently, the result of a certain study was shared on social media which apparently shows that Nigerian women are only second to Jamaican in the world when it comes to lying to men about the paternity of their kids.

The popular belief remains that when women cheat, they have a greater ability than men to hide the affair. Because they are hardly suspected while men are usually caught in the act, it has helped to further fuel the idea that men cheat more than women.

Dr. David Holmes , a psychologist at Manchester Metropolitan University said that, “The biggest difference [between men and women who cheat] is that women are much better at keeping their affairs secret.”

Women are so good at hiding their affairs, in fact, that Dr. Holmes seems to affirm the claim about paternity in that paragraph above.

“If you look at the studies into paternity, even conservative figures show that between 8% and 15% of children haven't been fathered by the man who thinks he's the biological parent,” he says.

Infidelity is costly — it can lead to tears, break-ups, divorces and even violence. So why do people do it?

“One of the biggest myths in relationships is that people think, ‘Oh, my partner cheated therefore there is something wrong. There’s an underlying problem either with me or the relationship.’ That’s not necessarily the case,” Selterman told TODAY.

“This speaks to the idea that humans are promiscuous, and even if things are going well, that does not necessarily mean that there’s not a desire for more — at least in terms of more experiences with other partners.”

8 reasons why people cheat

1. Lack of love

Feeling that your partner is not “The One” for you. No longer feeling passionate love or even falling out of love. Perceiving the relationship to be boring, dull or stagnant. “Lack of love is a powerful motivation — it’s definitely one of the stronger ones,” Selterman noted.

2. Sexual desire

Feeling unsatisfied with the sex life you have in your relationship, perhaps because your partner has lost interest or you want to try something new that your partner can’t give you. “We also found people might be motivated to test the waters with regards to their own orientation or identity,” he said.

3. Neglect

Feeling that your partner is not paying enough attention to you or not spending enough time with you. Not feeling appreciated.

4. Situation

When you’re in a different setting or not quite yourself — perhaps when you’re on vacation, drunk or under a lot of stress — you may have a momentary urge to sexually explore that would not necessarily be part of your stable, everyday behavior. “Landmark events,” such as an upcoming 40th birthday, may also lead you to cheat. One study showed “9-enders“ — people who are 29, 39, 49 and so on — may seek an affair as they approach a new decade to try to find meaning in their life.

5. Variety

You live by the motto “You only live once,” so you want to try lots of sexual experiences with as many partners as possible.

6. Low commitment

This is oriented toward people’s definitions of exclusivity, Selterman said. “Some people say they never discussed being exclusive with their partner or ‘I didn’t want to get too close,’ or ‘I don’t envision a future with this person,’” he noted. “They’re in a relationship, but they haven’t specified that the commitment level is high or the exclusivity is there.”

7. Esteem

You feel sleeping with others will improve your sense of self-worth, signal your independence or increase your social status and popularity.

8. Anger

You suspect or know your partner has betrayed you, so you want to get even. “The motivation is revenge,” Selterman. 

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COMMON CAUSES OF CHEATING IN RELATIONSHIP. 

The rise in the number of cheating women could be due to the use of social media. With social media, private chats and dating sites being available to everyone, avenues to cheat and get into side relationships have become increased.

Work place proximity has also been listed as a possible cause. Compared to the decades before now, more women are no longer staying at home as caregivers, neither are they content to take the traditional gender roles of the past years. The fact that there are more women in the workplace and all sectors provides more opportunities for workplace romance to blossom

Infidelity is one of the most distressing things you can experience in a romantic relationship, so it's very important to understand why lovers are motivated to be unfaithful, he added.

The study, based on responses from 495 people who had cheated on a partner, found eight basic motivations for infidelity. The participants were young, 20 years old on average, but their reasons for straying are common themes that could apply across other ages, Selterman said.

Here are eight reasons why people cheat on their partners:

And apparently, just like men, women are jumping at the opportunity to get frisky with their colleagues and other people connected to them through work.

Finally, while there can be endless studies and research trying to establish a final truth to this unending argument about cheating between the genders, one thing remains obvious: men cheat and women cheat. That can't be argued.