10 Common Lies Nigerian Men Tell If They Only Want To Sleep With You

Men are well known for telling a handful of unbelievable lies when they find you attractive and wish to take you to bed, both the married and single (if there is anything such as single man). Once you find out about it or maybe have your doubts, most of them are willing to go an extra mile by swearing with their lives just to convince or prove you otherwise.

Most men believe that ladies are moved by what they hear, regardless of what their heart tells them, this means that if a man is able to convince them with lies, they are liable to fall easily, especially when the man in question is handsome and well loaded. Women who fall for these cheap lies are the kind that are mostly moved by what they hear and see. In this post, we reveal some these lies so you will know once they are at it.

Below are the 10 common lies men tell just to take you to be:

1. I'm ready to settle down

Majority of ladies don't know this but let me take some time to make it clear. A man who is ready to marry you will never let you know until he has decided and is 100% sure that it is you, that is only when he will come forward with his plan by asking you to marry him. A lot of women this days keep wondering how a man they've known for years will leave them and get married to someone else.few weeks later. The only explanation to this is that he was just using you to warm his bed all these years while making plans to marry another. So beware when a man comes to you singing about him being ready to settle down.

2. I won't be chasing you for this long if I only wanted to sleep with you

Many ladies has in the past, fallen for this cheap lies so many times. Men usually use this line when they have been asking a woman out for maybe a year or two, and she keeps turning him down. Trust me, it works, especially when the lady in question start convincing herself he won't be coming after her all this years if he didnt actually love her. Believe it or not, if you ever fall for this lie, na express you dey go.

3. If she was my girlfriend I won't be here chasing you around

Guess when men tells you this lie? Immediately you ask hm who is she? Right there, he will first deny her, then try to convince you that she is just an ordinary friend whom he has known his he was a kid. Once he notices that you don't believe him, then the mighty lie comes next. If believe him at your own peril.

4. I don't know how to cook, can you come and cook for me?

Lets just agree that there are some ladies whose number one hobby is cooking, they love cooking more than anything else in the world. And once a man notices this, maybe through chatting or calls, they try to take advantage. Once they ask you what your favorite food is, whatever answer you give them automatically becomes their favorite food too. Then he tickles you by telling you he can't wait to taste your meal, once you laugh over it then the almighty question follows suit "Can you come and cook for me?" Sorry Mr. but have you been eating grasss all these while? Ladies beware because i dont need to remind you what will happen next.

5. I've told my mom about you

98% percent of ladies for this. Once a man tells them this cheap lie, they start creating an abstract of their wedding day because they believe once his mother is aware of their relationship, nothing else is stands on the way.

6. When his friends start calling you our wife

Unlike women, men know themselves quite too well, and always have their own backs. Once you start dating him and keeps turning down his bedroom advances, he turns straight to his friends for aid. Imagine on an outing and both of you run into his friends and immdiately they start hailing you OUR WIFE!! Trust me, nothing will move you more than this.

7. He starts attending the same church with you

This particular lie is specially meant for our sisters in the lord. Once he find out you're the too religious type and can't find their way around you, then he will try to use your holy holy life against you. He immediately starts attending the same church with you, even crusade he is there. Meanwhile this is someone that hasn't been to church since his child dedication day. The funny part is, any day he comes to your church, he will do everything possible to ensure you notice him. Even when the pastor ask people with Ogbanje spirit to come out for deliverance, he jumps out just to make you feel free and relaxed with him.

8. I'm thinking about going to see your people

This lie pops up when the lady is very stubborn and wouldnt give in to his selfish demands. He already knows that she loves him but isnt willing to open it for him unless he comes to see her people. The next thing that comes to his mind is to start telling you about his fictitious plans about coming to your place. He might even go as far as asking you to give him some heads up about what your kindred brideprice list looks like. This trick might convince any lady so beware!

9. When are you coming to see me

Men are known for this. Every now and then, they keep asking when are you coming to see me asif he is admitted in the hospital. Sometimes, he may deliberately make himself scarce, claiming to be busy at work and only have chance at home. This lie might increase your desire to see him, and you may be forced to give him, especially if you like him and miss him. Please take note!

10. You can add yours

I know most of the men will be frowning while reading this because their secrets has been exposed.

Ladies, have you fallen victim of any of these lies?

Let us know through the comment section, and don't forget to like and share this post so others can be aware too!

May 2020: 32 Prayer Points for New Month Blessings

New Month Prayers And Blessings

It is the beginning of a new month, start by praying and commanding heavenly blessings into your life and your family with new month prayers and blessings. Let the potency of these new month prayer points for breakthroughs leads your heart to win like never before in the new month. More so, go ahead and share new month prayer points for breakthroughs with friends and acquaintance to spur them to engage the new month too.

1. The blessings of the Lord be upon you, You will not have any reason to mourn this month. Our Father in heaven will remember you and visit you this month for greatness. Where people that matter is, there shall you be also.

2. In this new month, I come against every spirit of impossibility. My God is a God of possibility, all things are possible for me in the name of Jesus.

3. In this new month, I raise the embargo placed upon my life. I move forward and upward in the name of Jesus. Nothing will hinder my progress.

4. In this new month, my mind is renewed through the knowledge of the image of God. I have the knowledge to complete every task, nothing is difficult for me.

5. In this new month, there shall be no limitation, no height I can’t reach in the name of Jesus.

6. In this new month, I live in the abundance of God. I experience and enjoy the fullness of God that I have never experienced before.

7. This month, lines fall on you in places. That one thing you have been asking God for, He will visit you this month with answers to your request. The hand of the Lord be mightily upon your life, everywhere you go there shall be an overflow of testimony.

9. Lord, just as you parted the red sea, make a way for me where there seems to be no way in this new month. I will not be stranded in the name of Jesus.

10. My body is the temple of the Lord, so therefore it cannot house the spirit of God and house the seed of the devil. In this new month, every seed that the Lord has not planted in me will be uprooted in the name of Jesus.

11. In this new month, I break the evil covenant over my life. Wherever I have entered into a covenant, the Lord breaks it in the name of Jesus.

12. Every seed of backwardness planted by the devil is uprooted in this new month. I will move forward in the name of Jesus.

13. Lord, You said You will have mercy on who You have mercy on, let it please you to have mercy on me in this new month. 

14. In this new month, I will be fruitful. In my body, my marriage, my business, my ministry, my finances, I will be fruitful in the name of Jesus.

15. Lord, remember me in this new month, let me be marvelously helped in the name of Jesus.

16. As our Father in heaven is the most high and the most high cannot give birth to the most low so I pray for you today that you will be rapidly carried in the wings of God and you will be lifted to indescribable proportions higher than before. Where you have never envisioned seeing yourself anytime soon, you will get there this month.

17. In this month, God’s favor will encamp you roundabout. At work, in your business, in your family, you will be a magnet that attracts favor. You will receive a great portion of help, you will not lack any good thing. You will be singled out to be favored. You will not lack help. You receive timely help.

18. In this new month, you will be in the right place at the right time. Just as the Lord orders the steps of the righteous, He will order your steps in this new month.

19. In this new month, I operate in the wisdom of God. My knowledge is expanded, I know beyond the ordinary. I know what to do at all times. Nothing is hidden to me, I see what God is showing me, I hear what God is telling me.

20. I pray that in this new month, you will advance. You will be promoted in all your endeavors in life. You will not labor in vain. You will not be subjected to an endless struggle. Your life will make sense, you will be a source of encouragement to people around you.

21. In this new month, people choose to bless me. People from far and near will come to my aid. Angels of the Lord direct help to my path, and I live in abundance in this new month.

22. Lord, I cry to You in this new month, let my life change. Release Your blessings upon my life.

23. In this new month, every crooked path is made straight. Every situation that has been made difficult, the Lord breathes on it and there is an ease in the name of Jesus.

24. In this new month, I neutralize every power sent to attack my life. Holy Ghost destroys such power in Jesus’ name.

25. Lord, in this new month, let Your grace be sufficient for me. Let my faith in You increase like never before.

26. Lord, there is nothing you cannot do, please do the unimaginable in my life this month. Surprise me in this new month.

27. Lord, I refuse any situation that can cause depression. I will not be depressed, I remain joyful in this new month.

28. In this new month, I make progress. In everything I do, there is a tangible result. I gain access to a breakthrough in my life.

29. Lord, I pray for unusual doors of opportunity to be opened for my business. Contracts that I never expected, I receive them in this new month.

30. Lord, in this new month, my hope will not be shattered. My heart desires are granted. I enter a month full of abundance.

31. I gain speedy access to all that belongs to me and my family. No more delay in all do. Help meets me daily in the new month for I am blessed of the Lord forever and always.

32. Favor is my name wherever I go in the new month. No lack shall come near my dwelling for it has pleased the Lord to grant me and my loved ones a true abundance of blessings beyond any human reasoning.

8 Bad Spirits That Delays Girls From Getting Married

Marriage is a beautiful thing and best achieved when one is young so as to have the energy to work and train their children together, not just that, marrying at a young age gives the two the opportunity to share their young age together and their old age to tell the stories together.

Getting married is one of the most excitement for any couple especially the girls, some says that it is the last piece of a puzzle to make a girl complete as a woman. Nevertheless, there is some spirits that hinders or should I call it delay many girls from getting married early or even at all.

Check them out below.

1. The Spirit Of Unserious Boyfriend.

The spirit of boyfriend is that spirit that will keep scaring away serious suitors. A serious and we'll mannered suitor will have the thoughts that you have a boyfriend and he's intending to marry you. He doesn't want anything to break his future marriage so he will not want to break someone's relationship. Meanwhile, all he does is take you to party, clubs and he never takes any step further to build a family with you. This evil spirit doesn't need prayers, it needs quitting the relationship.

2. I'm Beautiful And Hard To Get.

This spirit will push you to play hard to get for any serious suitors who come to ask for your hand in marriage. You will want to prove that you are beautiful so you are not cheap to get. You will make him chase after you for almost a year to prove that he loves you. Surely you love him but you will want to pretend to not be interested to see his reaction. Eventually, you might want to accept but he has left, it's late. To remove this spirit, you have to stop pretence, if you see that it's Godswill, say yes. Marriage is not always about how long the relationship goes but the love in it.

3. The Spirit Of Engagement Ring.

This is the spirit that keeps you down for years wearing an avoid-me curse. A man will engage you for over 10 years with no plans of finally getting married. A serious suitor will want to make an approach to you but the ring on your hand will chase him back to where he came from. To cast away this spirit, remove the ring of an Unserious man who engages you without plans of marriage after 2-3 years.

4. The Proud And Over-Holy-Holy Spirit.

That spirit that tells you to always go home immediately after service so that no man will talk to you, maybe he'll meet you in the dream. Before the brother would prepare to say Hi, you have gone home. That spirit that tells you that every brother that greets you has an evil intention, so don't answer them. That spirit that doesn't allow you to greet brothers except those that drive exotic cars. That spirit that tells you to be walking fast every time as if something is pursuing you from the back. Well, I don't know how you can cast out this spirit o, but I think humility and being moderate might help.

5. The Spirit Of Tribalism And Church Denomination.

That spirit that says you must marry someone from your church or tribe. Because you belong to the Catholic church, you must not marry someone who doesn't attend Catholic church. You are an Anglican, you cannot marry a Catholic or penticostal member. That bad spirit that says you are from Igbo tribe so you must marry an Igbo person. You believe A Yoruba man cannot marry an Igbo or Hausa woman. This spirit has kept many bound, they entered menopause and are about to retire to village. To cast out this spirit, you have to stop believing in stupid tribalism beliefs and some senseless church doctrines.

6. The Spirit Of I Am Beautiful And Must Marry A Rich Man.

Some girls believe that once they are beautiful, they must marry a very rich man. They believe beauty is what attracts rich men. They are too beautiful to go into the house of a poor man and build a better future with him. They prefer an already made rich man.

You want a rich man, but ask yourself, does a rich man want you ? Do you have the attributes a rich man wants ?. That's the question you must ask yourself. The same thing goes to the men.

6. The Spirit Of Dirtiness.

That spirit that tells you bathing twice a day is not necessary. That spirit that tells you taking care of yourself is not important that a man who loves you will marry you for who you are. That spirit that says you should not dress well to look smart, you wear a yellow top, blue skirt, red scarf and green shoe, lol. You are a woman but you prefer dressing like a man. You don't brush twice a day and change underwear. This spirit has kept hundreds of people in their fathers house. To cast away this spirit, you have to accept cleanliness and good fashion. You should also know that cleanliness is next to Godliness.

8. The Spirit Of I Just Want To Marry.

Some people go into marriage because they are tired of failed relationships or tired of being single. They just want to get married and know what marriage feels like. Marriage is not something that someone rushes into. You have to sit down, know each other. Find out if you are compatible with each other before getting married. This will help you to avoid infidelity in your marriage.

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Do You Often Wake Up Between 1 AM and 3 AM? Here Is What It Means

Body, psyche, and feelings in Chinese medication are indistinguishable, which implies that if you have a disharmony in your physical body, it is identified with your enthusiastic state. 

Here are a few models. 

IF YOU WAKE UP BETWEEN 9 PM AND 11 PM. 

All things considered, this positively occurs if you need to head to sleep early. In all probability you will nod off at some point during this time, yet then you can scarcely close your eyes 

If thus, you should critically accomplish something with your pressure. Since the enthusiastic worry for your situation has just started to manifest on the muscles. Attempt contemplation, else, you are in an extremely difficult position. 

IF YOU WAKE UP BETWEEN 11:00 PM AND 1:00 AM 

This time is related with the bile conduit. The body separates the fat you take in your body for the duration of the day. Awakening right now implies it's a great opportunity to change your eating routine. 

Likewise, awakening as of now may likewise imply that you are holding negative feelings in yourself, trailed by outrage towards yourself or others. Yours, or the slip-ups of others, keep you awake. 

IF YOU WAKE UP BETWEEN 1:00 AM AND 3:00 AM 

During this time, the body revives the liver, which is our body's chemical. 

Awakening at these hours may imply that you have an excessive amount of capacity on your liver and in this manner it is intensifying. Your body cautions you to change your eating regimen and diminish liquor. 

Likewise, awakening during this time is related with negative feelings, for example, outrage, blame, which makes it difficult to unwind. 

IF YOU WAKE UP BETWEEN 03:00 AM AND 05:00 AM 

This piece of the day is related with the lungs that contain oxygen so the body plans for one more day. As of now the lungs are cleaned. Awakening between three and five around evening time might be an indication that your lungs are over-burden with dirtied air or cigarettes, yet in addition substantial nourishment. 

Likewise, awakening around then is related with a sentiment of trouble and lament, when something negative has transpired or you are discouraged that you have not had the option to completely acknowledge 

IF YOU WAKE UP BETWEEN 5:00 AND 7:00 IN THE MORNING 

This time is related with the colon, which is then cleaned and recharged. This procedure is significant for the entire body, and awakening during this time can imply that the body is got dried out and lacking water. 

With regards to feelings, getting up at 5 am and 7 am is related with prejudice, void, and uncertainty.

Hope you enjoyed this article.

History of Nigeria before 1500

Apr 25, 2020 4:39 PM

Long before 1500 much of modern-Nigeria was divided into states identified with contemporary ethnic groups. These early states included the Igbo Kingdom of Nri, the Benin Kingdom, Yoruba kingdoms, the Hausa cities, and Nupe. Additionally numerous small states to the west and south of Lake Chad were absorbed or displaced in the course of the expansion of Kanem, which was centered to the northeast of Lake Chad. Bornu, initially the western province of Kanem, became independent in the late 1th century. Other states probably existed but the absence of archaeological data prevents accurate dating. In the south, the earliest Kingdom was the Igbo Kingdom of Nri which emerged in 900 AD.

Kingdom of Nri

The Nri Kingdom in the Awka area was founded in about 900 AD in North Central Igboland, and is considered the oldest Kingdom in Nigeria. The Nsukka-Awka-Orlu axis is said to be the oldest area of Igbo settlement and therefore, homeland of the Igbo people. It was a center of spirituality, learning, and commerce. They were agents of peace and harmony whose influence stretched beyond Igboland. The Nri people's influence in neighboring lands was especially in Southern Igalaland and Benin kingdom in the 12th to 15th centuries. As great travelers, they were also business people involved in the long distant Tran Saharan trade. The development and sophistication of this civilization is evident in the bronze castings found in Igbo Ukwu, an area of Nri influence. The Benin kingdom became a threat in the 15th century under Oba Ewuare. Since they were against slaves and slavery, their power took a downturn when the slave trade was at its peak in the 18nth century. The Benin and Igala slave raiding empires became the main influence in their relationship with Western and Northern Igbos their former main areas of influence and operation. Upper Northwest Cross River Igbo groups like the Aro Confederacy and Ohafia peoples, as well as the Awka and Umunoha people used oracular activities and other trading opportunities after Nri's decline in the 18th century to become the major influences in Igboland and all adjacent areas. This includes parts of Igalaland and places west of the Niger river indirectly affected by . More information about Igbos then and now: Igbo Language Nigeria Igbo Americans Igboland.

Edo kingdom

During the 15th century Benin was the first to receive foreign traders.The last Ogiso son who was to succeed his Father was banished from Edo and arrived in the Yoruba kingdom, crowned as their King, and titled the throne as Ilefe Izoduwa in Edo Language which was corrupted to Ile-ife Oduduwa in Yoruba. The Powerful Kingdom in Nigeria and first Empire recognized by foreign traders was (Ubini) Edo Kingdom. The Edo King captured many towns such as Eko which is now Lagos and also captured Ijebu and Edo Kingdom was stretched from Ijebu and Lagos to Republic of Darhomey which is now change to Republic of Benin. Respect for the priestly functions of the Oni of Ife was a crucial factor in the evolution of Yoruba ethnicity. The Ife model of government was adept and derived its military strength from its cavalry forces, which established hegemony over the adjacent Nupe and the Borgu kingdoms and thereby developed trade routes farther to the north.

Edoland established a community in the Yoruba-speaking area east of Ubini before becoming a dependency of Benin Kingdom at the beginning of the 14th century. By the 15th century it became an independent trading power, blocking Ife's access to the coastal ports as Oyo had cut off the mother city from the savanna. Political and religious authority resided in the oba (king) who according to tradition was descended from the Ogiso dynasty in Benin Kingdom. Benin, which may have housed much inhabitants at its height, spread over large square km that were enclosed by concentric rings of earthworks. By the late 15th century Edo Kingdom was in contact with Portugal who discovered an Empire of great men with civilization and resources (palm oil, ivory, cotton etc.) which was traded through a trade of import and export of natural resources which has been part of Edo culture. At its apogee in the 16th and 17th centuries, Edo encompassed parts of southeastern Yorubaland,and the western parts of the present Delta State.

Yoruba and Benin kingdoms

Historically the Yoruba have been the dominant group on the west bank of the Niger. Of mixed origin, they were the product of periodic waves of migrants.[1] The Yoruba were organized in patrilineal groups that occupied village communities and subsisted on agriculture. From about the 8th century adjacent village compounds, called Ilé, coalesced into numerous territorial city-states in which clan loyalties became subordinate to dynastic chieftains. The earliest known of these city states formed at Ilé-Ifẹ̀ and Ijebuland. Urbanization was accompanied by high levels of artistic achievement, particularly in terracotta and ivory sculpture and in the sophisticated metal casting produced at Ilé-Ifẹ̀. The Yoruba placated a luxuriant pantheon headed by an impersonal deity, Olorun, and included lesser deities who performed various tasks. Oduduwa was regarded as the creator of the earth and the ancestor of the Yoruba kings. According to "myth" (This is a true story) Oduduwa founded Ife and dispatched his sons to establish other cities, where they reigned as priest-kings. Ile Ife was the center of as many as 400 religious cults whose traditions were manipulated to political advantage by the Ooni of Ilé-Ifẹ̀ (king). Other information about Yorubas now and before Yoruba People Yoruba Language Nigeria Yorubaland Yoruba Americans The oni was chosen on a rotating basis, from a branch of the ruling dynasty. Once a single member, of several thousand is selected, they are secluded from the rest. Below the oni, in the state there were: palace officials, town chiefs, and rulers of outlying dependencies. The Ife model of government was adapted at Oyo. eventually, Oyo turned into a constitutional monarchy, but this was not the actual government. Unlike the Yoruba, Oyo had cavalry forces. This helped develop trading further north.

The northern kingdoms of the Savanna

Trade was the key to the emergence of organized communities in the savanna portions of Nigeria. Prehistoric inhabitants adjusting to the encroaching desert were widely scattered by the third millennium BC, when the desiccation of the Sahara began. Trans-Saharan trade routes linked the western Sudan with the Mediterranean since the time of Carthage and with the Upper Nile from a much earlier date, establishing avenues of communication and cultural influence that remained open until the end of the 19th century. By these same routes, Islam made its way south into West Africa after the 9th century AD.

By then a string of dynastic states, including the earliest Hausa states, stretched across the western and central Sudan. The most powerful of these states were Ghana, Gao, and Kanem, which were not within the boundaries of modern Nigeria but indirectly influenced the history of the Nigerian savanna. Ghana declined in the 11th century but was succeeded by Mali Empire which consolidated much of the western Sudan in the 13th century. Following the breakup of Mali a local leader named Sonni Ali (1464–1492) founded the Songhai Empire in the region of middle Niger and the western Sudan and took control of the trans-Saharan trade. Sunni Ali seized Timbuktu in 1468 and Jenne in 1473, building his regime on trade revenues and the cooperation of Muslim merchants. His successor Askiya Mohammad Ture (1493–1528) made Islam the official religion, built mosques, and brought Muslim scholars, including al-Maghili (died c. 1505), the founder of an important tradition of Sudanic African Muslim scholarship, to Gao.[4] Although these western empires had little political influence on the Nigerian savanna before 1500, they had a strong cultural and economic impact that became more pronounced in the 16th century, especially because these states became associated with the spread of Islam and trade. Throughout the 16th century much of northern Nigeria paid homage to Songhai in the west or to Bornu, a rival empire in the east.

Kanem-Bornu Empire

Bornu's history is closely associated with Kanem, which had achieved imperial status in the Lake Chad basin by the 13th century. Kanem expanded westward to include the area that became Bornu. The mai (king) of Kanem and his court accepted Islam in the 11th century, as the western empires also had done. Islam was used to reinforce the political and social structures of the state although many established customs were maintained. Women, for example, continued to exercise considerable political influence.

The mai employed his mounted bodyguard and an inchoate army of nobles to extend Kanem's authority into Bornu. By tradition the territory was conferred on the heir to the throne to govern during his apprenticeship. In the 14th century, however, dynastic conflict forced the then-ruling group and its followers to relocate in Bornu, where as a result the Kanuri emerged as an ethnic group in the late fourteenth and fifteenth centuries. The civil war that disrupted Kanem in the second half of the 14th century resulted in the independence of Bornu.

Bornu's prosperity depended on the trans-Sudanic slave trade and the desert trade in salt and livestock. The need to protect its commercial interests compelled Bornu to intervene in Kanem, which continued to be a theater of war throughout the fifteenth and into the sixteenth centuries. Despite its relative political weakness in this period, Bornu's court and mosques under the patronage of a line of scholarly kings earned fame as centers of Islamic culture and learning.

Hausa states

By the 11th century some Hausa states - such as Kano, Katsina, and Gobir - had developed into walled towns engaging in trade, servicing caravans, and the manufacture of various goods. Until the 15th century these small states were on the periphery of the major Sudanic empires of the era. They were constantly pressured by Songhai to the west and Kanem-Bornu to the east, to which they paid tribute. Armed conflict was usually motivated by economic concerns, as coalitions of Hausa states mounted wars against the Jukun and Nupe in the middle belt to collect slaves or against one another for control of trade.

Islam arrived to Hausaland along the caravan routes. The famous Kano Chronicle records the conversion of Kano's ruling dynasty by clerics from Mali, demonstrating that the imperial influence of Mali extended far to the east. Acceptance of Islam was gradual and was often nominal in the countryside where folk religion continued to exert a strong influence. Nonetheless, Kano and Katsina, with their famous mosques and schools, came to participate fully in the cultural and intellectual life of the Islamic world. The Fulani began to enter the Hausa country in the 13th century and by the 15th century they were tending cattle, sheep, and goats in Bornu as well. The Fulani came from the Senegal River valley, where their ancestors had developed a method of livestock management based on transhumance. Gradually they moved eastward, first into the centers of the Mali and Songhai empires and eventually into Hausaland and Bornu. Some Fulbe converted to Islam as early as the 11th century and settled among the Hausa, from whom they became racially indistinguishable. There they constituted a devoutly religious, educated elite who made themselves indispensable to the Hausa kings as state advisers, Islamic tribunes, and teachers.

How To Check Your Genotype At Home By Yourself Without Going To The Hospital

Apr 25, 2020 02:27 PM

The genotype test is now popular all over the world because it can give a lot of new exciting information about your ancestors, the special features of your family, and perhaps even psychological traits. You are probably asking yourself “How do I know my genotype without going to the hospital?”. Find out if it is possible.

What is genotype test?

The genotype test can give you a lot of information about your family and bloodline that really amazes you. Also, when you know your genotype, it helps a lot with health matters, and thanks to this knowledge you can prevent some dangerous illnesses.

First of all, you should know there is no need to determine the code of entire genome, only snippets of it will be enough.

The snippets of a genome are the rare DNA parts, which make us different.

For instance, they make some people blond-haired, while others are dark-haired. As far as the science is concerned, the genetic scientists are aware of the existence of ten million different kinds of snippets, which means there are ten million differences in genetic set in the world, maybe even more.

You have a chance to learn about various types of genotype, and of course, finding out your genotype without having to donate your blood.

Types of genotype

Firstly, we need to learn what genotype is. Genotype is the carrier of all genes that are located in the cell.

The word genotype is used when we refer to genes which are inherited from ancestors to descendants. However, even those organisms that have the same genotype have a lot of distinctive features, which makes every person unique and different.

Genotype is a system where genes perform interactions with each other, influence each other and form genetic combinations. Every gene has its own genotypic environment. By the type of interaction, the genotypes can be the following:

Epistatic – those which suppress actions of various non-allelic genes.

Hypostatic – genotypes which are suppressed by the allelic genes.

Pleiotropic – those which simultaneously affect the manifestation of a few symptoms.

Fatal – genotypes that can reduce the embryo’s viability, often to the point when it dies.

Sublethal – those genes which do the same as fatal genes, but they cause the embryo’s death before the reproductive period starts.

Modifiers – genes that can alter the manifestation of the other genes.

Mutators – those which drastically change body signs and person’s preferences.

AA - Very prone and susceptible to Falciparum Malaria. They always fall sick to malaria.

AS - It was realized that AS are bestowed and conferred with protections from malaria parasite because of the complex life-cycle of the parasite

SS - No protection at all, can easily be sick with any disease.

Before marrying any woman above 30years think about this

Been in a Relationship is a great life style to checkmate your good and bad attitude by other party who you are involved with, it is not the same thing as getting married, marriage is a difficult task that have failed most great men and women, when it comes to making choices,

With little experience I have gathered around me it's a good advice for a man to go for a woman that is younger in age than that of 30years and above

Firstly

1. 30years old lady may not agree to adjust her attitude to an extend

Marriage is all about learning, and the best time to learn is when you are still tender, for instance imagine you at the age of 30 learning how to solve quadratic equations how do you think you can learn it without forgetting it within few days or how challenging it might seem to you

Character modification is best done when you are much younger so a 30years old woman who doesn't know how to respect her husband will never learn that after 30years

2. 30years old woman might have exhausted the extra oil

Do you actually know the meaning of

30years, that's simply means 30men in her life, but in most cases there are few one that are reserved though,

But when it comes to those women with much experience is difficult for them to stay under you without comparing you with ex boyfriends

3. 30years old lady might not really give you the respect you deserve

She might be seeing you as age mates therefore, no much regards is been hold for you, so I advice you to go for younger ladies

4.A 30year old lady might have a lower fertility ratio

No need to talk more on this we already know what it entails, the younger she is the better she becomes, getting pregnant might be things of God gift and grace, but let's think this way, A 21year old lady seeking for child for 7years have a better chances and more time than a 30 years old woman finding it difficult to conceive a child for the next 10years don't you think, is that not a menopause?

5.marrying a younger woman increases mortality ratio

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How To Whiten Dark Armpits Overnight. Get Rid Of Dark Underarms

 

Apr 22, 2020

If the dark underarms is a trouble to you, there are ways to reduce it overnight with some natural and homemade remedies. Today most of the people have a problem of dark underarms that is a reason of awkwardness.

But people have adopted the home remedies to whiten the dark armpits. Trendy tank tops will never be kept in a side if you have developed lighter skin tone of armpits.

FAQs about Dark Underarms

Is waxing helpful to remove dark underarms?

Does shaving make your underarm dark?

Do turmeric, milk and honey paste remove darkness from armpit?

Does tea tree oil lighten armpit?

Do Multani mitti and lemon juice paste brighten armpit?

You can restore your confidence with white tone armpits without hesitation of wearing the dresses that can expose the armpit.  Let us have a look at variety of options that is extracted from nature to reduce the darkness of underarm.

How To Lighten Underarms Overnight

How to treat dark underarms at home

You can now get some of the fruits and vegetables that have the natural bleaching property along with acidic nature. You can now lighten the skin naturally with this effective underarm darkness removing solution. Following are one among the effective remedies that cures dark armpit overnight.

Lemon Juice Therapy For Dark Armpits

The Vitamin C enriched citrus fruit is perhaps the most revitalising ingredient to get rid of dark sweaty and stinky armpits which can cause embarrassment in the public.

All you need is to slice a lemon and apply the juice on your armpits, leave it to dry for 10 minutes and rinse it off using cold water. You can apply some mild moisturiser later and avoid going to sun with uncovered underarms. This will cause further darkening.

Lemon Oatmeal And Honey Paste For Underarms Lightening

Worried about the darkening of your armpits causing you to restrict your clothing? Not anymore. All you need is the lemon, oatmeal and honey to make a flavoured essential pack.

Use all the three elements in equal parts and apply it directly on the dark underarms. Allow it to dry and later rinse it off using cold water. Repeat this twice a week.

Natural Oils Application On Armpits

 

Soak cotton balls in natural essential oils like coconut oil, olive oil or you can also take some aromatherapy oils like argan oil, alangalang or lavender to soothe the sunburnt area.

These anti-inflammatory oils will help it settle and cool down. Oils will eradicate the dead skin cells from the surface and let the area breathe.

Yogurt Paste With Lemon And Olive Oil

The antimicrobial yogurt is very well known for its lightening and brightening properties. Mix it with some lemon juice drops and olive oil in a small proportion and apply it on your dark armpits.

Leave it to dry and absorbed by the skin underneath. Later, you can rinse it off or wipe using cotton ball. This natural remedy works wonders for dark underarms.

Potato Slice For Dark Armpits

Surprising isn’t? This kitchen staple and flavoured food is somehow effective in getting rid of dark underarms naturally. Slice a few potatoes and apply them directly on the dark stinky armpits, the results are swell!

It works like magic for it contains an enzyme that helps in lightening and whitening the affected areas due to its bleaching property. Repeat this twice in every 2-3 days for amazing results.

Hydrogen Peroxide To Get White Armpits

 

How to smoothen underarm pits

The formidable chemical element is here to save us from the utter embarrassment of dark and stinky armpits during summer sweat. However, we got you covered with the glorious hydrogen peroxide which can be easily found in any supermarket or drugstore.

Apply it moderately using cotton balls and swipe on the affected areas. The results are instant and awesome!

Cucumber And Lemon Juice For Dark Underarms

Step up to play your smooth skin game strong using cucumber juice mixed thoroughly with lemon juice drops to effectively get rid of dark armpits naturally. Apply the mix to flaunt your gorgeous flawless whiten underarms instantly.

Cucumber is the cooling agent that helps to soothe and provide relief to the affected areas. Lemon is a citrus fruit with incredible bleaching property to help get rid of dark pigmented skin.

Baking Soda Solution To Get Rid Of Dark Armpits

The ever-fairer and smooth even tone armpits will not be a dream anymore. Use baking soda solution on the dark armpits directly to say yes to fairer and lighter armpits naturally.

Soak cotton ball in baking soda and apply the mix, you can further add lemon juice and coconut oil to moisturize and hydrate the skin. Repeat this twice or thrice a week for effective results.

Orange Peel With Lemon Juice And Rose Water To Treat Dark Armpits

Don’t let the dark armpits take a toll on you and look every inch beautiful as you strut down the street in sans sleeves dresses and blouses.

Take an orange peel high on antioxidant, beaching and exfoliating properties, you can mix it in a blender and make a powder.

Mix the powder with lemon juice ad rosewater to get a thick rich consistent paste and apply it directly on your dark armpits to treat tanned armpits naturally.

Egg Oil

Egg oil is very essential for your body as it contains omega 3 which will increase new skin cells and make your skin portion healthy and attractive in nature. You can apply this at night before going to bed and then wash it away the next day morning.

Packs To Remove Dark Patches Over The Skin

Homemade scrubs to lighten underarms

A wonderful natural whitening pack must be applied over the portion of your armpit which will also form a thick paste to be applied over the underarm portion. In order to make this whitening skin pack, all you have to do is take two spoon of chickpea flour and also add a spoon of yogurt.

Mix both the ingredients well and add a pinch of turmeric and lemon to it. Mix it well and apply in your underarm portion such that it covers entire portion. Keep this for 30 minutes and then remove it with plain water.

Coconut Oil

An age old remedy to remove darkness from the armpit skin is the coconut oil. You just need to take a spoon of coconut oil in your hand palm and apply it over your underarms and massage with your hand palm and fingertips tips.

If you want to get the effective solution and quick result, apply this oil over your underarm portion everyday before going to bed. You may also go for skin massage with coconut oil before bath.

Just 5-10 minutes of massage will be ideal before going to bath. It is important to wash the coconut oil with a very mild soap.

Milk

With the presence of fatty acids and vitamins it will be effective to get a lightening effect over you’re underarm portion.

You can now make a past with two tablespoon of milk, a teaspoon of flour and a single teaspoon of curd. Mix then and apply over your armpit in such a way that it covers your entire underarm.

Stretch up your hands in such a way that the armpit portion remains exposed and can be dried easily. You just need to keep this for 15 minutes and then remove it with lukewarm water.

Exfoliate

People have been exfoliating their face and skin based on their requirement. Some ladies does it once in every 2-3 days whereas others do it weekly. But, people may not have realized about the requirement of exfoliation over the armpit portion.

If your underarms has become dark and really unattractive, it is the time for you to go ahead with exfoliating technique. There are many products in the market to exfoliate your skin. You can also avail the natural exfoliation ways at home.

Use Qualit. 

You must be using the deodorants during the summers in order to make your skin free from sweat. But have you ever seen the brand and variety that you are using. Some people are repeatedly using the cheap quality deo as those can save many portions from your bank balance.

But, the unhealthy will impact you the most in this situation. You can also get the armpits getting dark toned in this situation. Thus, it is better to use the deo that is of a good quality.

Cucumber

This is a natural way through which you can make your underarm skin light and attractive. There are several ways to use this cucumber. First one which is really simple will be slicing off the cucumber and rubbing it against your skin.

Alternatively you can grind and make pulp out of the cucumber. Then some lemon juice must be included over the cucumber pulp.

Mix it well and apply over your underarm portion. Keep this portion open by raising your hands up. Then let it dry for some time. Once it is dry you can wash it away.

Aloe Vera Juice

Aloe Vera that is natural extracted from the Mother Nature works well in removing the darkness over your skin layer. All you have to do is Take an Aloe Vera leaf and cut it from the middle.

Cut the middle portion of the leaf and take out the get from it. This gel should be applied over the armpit portion. Let it stay for some time and then remove it ideally.

Diet For Underarm Darkness

Sometimes the cause behind the darkness over your underarm can be improper diet. You must restrict consumption of food rich in sugar and starch as this helps in reducing dark layer forming under your arms

How To Use Bitter Leaf To Clear Pimples, Acne And Blackheads In Five Days

How To Use Bitter Leaf To Clear Pimples, Acne And Blackheads In Five Days

Different kinds of herbs and leaves are always beneficial to the skin condition and beauty of every woman in general. But bitter leaf is a very special helper for your skin and body. It does not only reduce the chances of skin aging( anti-aging) but it also fights against the effects of free radicals. Bitter leaf is exceptionally rich in Vitamin C, calcium, zinc, iron and copper.

.The bitter extract can help to smoothen one’s skin and prevent many skin diseases. You can also do face mask or wash your face with bitter leaf extract. Also, you can drink a special tea with bitter leaf to prevent acne, breakouts, wrinkles and blackhead

There so many ways bitterleaf can be used to achieve a clear and glowing face.

1. Face Mask: Cut at least 15-20 leaves of bitterleaf, pound it on a mortar or any unbreakable bowl. Add just a few drops of water to lighten the grinded bitterleaf paste, rob it on your face letting the liquid touch every spott on ur face.

The juice will assimilate into your skin pores and you will notice a lit of changes when you wash it off after 20 minute. 

Do it daily and you will see results before five (5) days.

2. You can also decide to squeeze a hand full of bitter leaf, extract the juice and drink on an empty stomach to achieve that youthful and glowing skin complexion. Bitter leaf contains alkaloids and flavonoids, which have powerful antioxidant effects in treating a variety of health issues.

It is believed that a glass of bitterleaf juice or a cup of bitterleaf tea is a strong herbal remedy in treating malaria, fever, parasitic infections, pneumonia, cough, diabetes and weight-loss. They also helps to strengthen and rejuvenate the red blood cells

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✍🏼.U shouldn't have 2 beg sumone to care, to stay and  to talk to u or  to put u ist or cherish been arnd u if them wanted the would.don't make pple a priority  in ur life when u only are to them is an option, don't try to hold unto sumone who is tryin 2 let go of u, only if u know ur worth nobody we look down on u

... Everybody is busy it only boiled down to priority...

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7 Dangerous people you should never marry, Ladies choose wisely

1. MR/MISS CONTAINER AND NOT CONTENT

Anyone that is ONLY after your body and sex is a NO-NO for a marriage partner and such a person would definitely have nothing to offer to enhance your worth or value or contents in life towards fulfilling destiny. In a world where a lot of vices are tampering with marriages, everyone ought to be committed to continual learning to add value to their partners where necessary. A Guy that admires your B**bs and doesn't care about your brains is a dangerous person to marry. A Lady that cares only about your 6packs or beards and doesn't bother about your Intellectual Prowess is very dangerous to marry.

2. MR/MISS SELF RIGHTEOUSNESS- A SINNER

Whoever does not have a conscious regard for God will never have a conscious regard for you. If you can’t obey God and His word to flee away from sin then cheating on your partner won’t be a difficult task hence such a person is dangerous. It is easier for a man/woman that sincerely fears God and obeys His word to respect the Sacredness of marriage. A playboy today will definitely be a play husband tomorrow, a play girl today will definitely be a play-wife tomorrow.

3. MR/MISS VANITY- MATERIALISTIC PERSONS

We now live in a world where people place so much value on material things that they’re willing to sacrifice anything to get them. We now hear stories of people perpetuating all kinds of evil (rituals, losing virginity, etc). Whoever would loose virginity for Iphone6 is dangerous.

PLEASE NOTE: I don’t hate material things at all but i believe in moderation in our love for the pleasures of this world.

If you find yourself in a relationship with someone that is overly conscious and addicted to materialism and the vain pleasures of life, quit it now.That person is dangerous.

4. MR/MISS ANGER

Whoever cannot control anger is a Time-Bomb waiting to explode. Such a person lacks discipline and self control which is a basic requirement to succeed in life. Avoid ill-tempered people like your life depends on it. They're very dangerous for marriage.

5. MR/MISS I KNOW IT ALL - LACK OF TEACHABLE SPIRIT

Nobody is a reservoir of knowledge and as such everyone must be dedicated to learning new useful things on a daily basis especially from your partner. If you have a partner that doesn’t care to learn from your views on issues, you just desist because that is a dangerous person to marry.

6. MR/MISS NO VISION FOR LIFE

There are a lot of people moving around the world with Crowd Mentality. No destination so everywhere or anywhere looks like it for them. Beware of such people, they are very dangerous to marry.

7. MR/MISS LIABILITY - NO/ZERO FINANCIAL PLANS OR ABILITY

With the current financial/economic downturn the world is experiencing including Nigeria, We don’t need to emphasise on the importance of having a source of income. it is no longer a male thing only, even women also have a duty to be engaged. Whoever is still lazy about achieving this is a very dangerous person to marry.

5 thing people do that actually make them poor in life

There are things you should not involve yourself in or it would make your future useless so it's better you avoid them

1.borrowing money from friends and relatives:They are habits you should avoid your self from just like borrowing money from your friends and relatives because once you do this you would feel free like you wouldn't be eager to pay the money and it might ruin your relationship with that person and may not be chanced to have opportunities like that.

2.Helping others to be financially free from debts:But this doesn't mean you shouldn't help others when they are in need of you know you have excess you can go ahead but when you are struggling with your problem and decided to help others it will become a burden to you and may cause you to be financially unstable

3. Living an extravagant lifestyle-

This is one of the major thing that ruins people because you would be thinking you have made all the money in the world but no till date bill Gates still invest in businesses. So you should be thinking on how to make more money you shouldn't stop saying you have made enough so you wish to be spending ,you are actually running your life bit by bit so be wise with the way you spend

4. Wishing to buy things you can't afford-

This is actually what most kills most youth these days wanting to buy things they know they can't afford at that moment,they later spend all the money they have in their hand on the stuff . Then you will realize that you no longer have money to feed yourself haven't you ruin yourself with your hands

5. Depending on parents at tender age-

When at your age 16 and you still depending on your parents it's a bad habit . You might not actually need the money but it's just for you to be exposed and have experience. But youth this days wish to be sitting at home becoming a liability to their parents. They might not complain but you should also try because one day you will become man and have responsibly.

5 Things a struggling young guy should avoid

5 Things You Should Avoid As A Struggling Guy we all have our struggling days. Most wealthy people you know in the society today all had their struggling days; except you were born with a silver spoon. It is nothing to be ashamed of because as the Bible puts it: 'Do not despise the days of humble beginnings'. One true fact is that you won't even remember your struggling days when you finally attain success. 

If you were born with wooden or no spoons at all, you need not despair. Success is not only achieved by physical strength; it also has to do with your mental strength. Your level of rational thinking matters a lot, for without it, your physical strength will be equivalent to pouring water into a basket. I believe you know what that means.

Below are some things you should avoid as a struggling bachelor:

1) BEER PARLORS/DRINKING JOINTS: It's not a bad idea to visit a bar for one or two bottles of drink occassionally (that's if you drink). What is killing is when you make it a habit to be there everyday to oblige your urge for alcohol! These spots are pocket-drainers for struggling guys. At the end of the day, you'll discover that you've not been able to meet most of your important needs. Why? Your habit is draining your meagre resources at the expense of self-development.

2) CALL GIRLS: Once you entangle yourself in this unfavourable market where deposits are allowed but no withdrawals, you can be completely compared to a fly that's entangled in a spider's web! If you spend N20,000 monthly on prostitutes and your monthly income is N40,000, my brother, your future is not brighter than the back of a cooking pot!

3) FINANCIAL WOMEN: (Apology to Phyno aka Eze Nnunu). If you can afford a phone of N280,000 for your girlfriend without waving, very fine. After all, we give in love. Bro, but not when you are struggling. There's a time for all things. Leave these set of people for those who are already comfortable, rich or have enough to throw around. Life is not and has never been a competition. You too will get there if you strive. Don't be fooled by flashy appearance. Women are created with brains too; they can work and take care of their needs. Don't kill yourself to make a woman look super fly while you are struggling to survive. It makes no sense, for tides and times come and go. Let whoever you are with know your present state. The good ones will encourage you but the materialistic ones...hmmm. That doesn't mean you should be stingy; give freely but let it be within your means. Give with no intention to receive.

4) COMPETITIVE LIFE: This has never been a helpful friend to struggling guys. What will it profit a struggling guy if he spends N2,500 for a bottle of beer in club, knowing fully well that the neighbourhood shops sell same for N200? The kids who spend lavishly right in the club or elsewhere trust their account balance. Trying to compete with them is useless. My brother, na you go still go house go cry! Regret is a personal thing. Nobody regrets with you Ogbeni, experience na the best teacher but to learn from anoda man own go make you escape paying the high tuition fee.

5) MULTIPLE AFFAIRS: Just like patronizing call-girls (Point 2 above), engaging yourself in multiple affairs as a struggling guy is a fatal blow that can slow your progress. Apart from wasting resources, you will become less focused. My brother, wetin you dey find go Sokoto dey inside your Shokoto o! Even if she's a 'village girl', you can 'package' her as far as you both love and understand each other. Look for an understanding and emotionally mature girl to date; she must also be engaged in something worthwhile. Stop running after these little slay queens! They'd rather prefer a yahoo-yahoo guy to you

10 Ways to Develop a Success-Oriented Mindset

1. Put yourself in challenging new situations.

You gain confidence by overcoming challenges, but when you fail to put yourself in challenging new situations because you assume the outcome won’t be positive, you will be unable to grow.

Instead, develop a list of exciting challenges you’re interested in overcoming. They could include exploring a foreign city on your own or enrolling in a challenging business course at your local university. Even volunteering to help with a new project at the office can provide a challenging situation that will foster growth.

Whatever the challenge you select, be sure it is something that interests you; otherwise, it may be difficult to stay focused along the way.

2. Be open to finding a mentor.

Mentorship is often discussed with regard to self-improvement and business success. But many professionals assume that finding a mentor is as simple as asking a senior professional for help.

However, as Sheryl Sandberg argues in the Harvard Business Review, finding a mentorship doesn’t work that way. Instead, professionals need to put themselves in situations where they can build real relationships with senior business leaders.

In time, after an existing relationship has formed, it may be appropriate to ask a senior professional for mentorship. That means readers will need to make themselves available to build professional relationships before they can secure a mentor who can help them grow.

3. Think of failure as a learning opportunity.

Failure is an outstanding learning opportunity. If you find yourself succeeding frequently, it may be a sign that you aren’t challenging yourself enough.

Develop a mindset that views failure as an experience to learn from. By reframing failure, you’ll find it is easier to take risks. Adopting this mindset will leave you less prone to anxiety, which is key to creating a winning attitude.

4. Keep a folder of your proudest moments.

While it’s important to focus on the present and future instead of the past, maintaining a collection of moments you’re proud of can serve as a helpful reminder when you’re feeling down. By periodically reviewing past successes, you may find inspiration for future projects. At the very least, you can use past successes as a way to build long-term confidence.

5. Surround yourself with top talent.

Environment plays a significant role in creating our mindsets. After all, we’re social creatures and are influenced by those around us. Surround yourself with talented individuals who can teach you new things and who can encourage you to grow personally and professionally.

If you’re involved in the hiring process at your organization, look for prospective employees who are better or smarter than you. This will help create an environment that can consistently encourage you to form a successful mindset.

6. Find time to disconnect from stressors.

The average American works more hours per week than his or her counterparts in other developed countries. Furthermore, the average number of hours worked has been steadily growing since the 1980s. Unfortunately, work-related stress has been creeping up at the same time.

Readers should find time to disconnect from work-related stress that can make it difficult to adopt a success-oriented mindset. Traveling can be a good way to disconnect, as can adopting a daily meditation practices

7. Develop a simple morning routine.

According to lifestyle gurus like Tim Ferriss, we are shaped by our morning routines. That means it’s important for readers interested in developing a new mindset to develop new habits as well.

Since your morning has the power to make or break your entire day, consider creating a simple morning routine that positions you to have a successful day.

For example, waking up earlier than normal can give you time to focus on yourself in ways that might have otherwise been impossible. With the extra time you can go to the gym or develop a meditation practice to reduce stress, as mentioned above.

8. Set time-bound and achievable personal goals.

More than 90 percent of New Year’s resolutions fail. If you’re serious about changing your mindset, you should take a different approach to goal setting. Instead of relying on a New Year’s resolution, create time-bound goals that you know are achievable from the outset. Approaching goal setting from this angle will help to build your confidence, which in turn will reshape your thinking.

9. Listen to your instincts.

Part of developing a winning mindset is learning to trust your instincts. According to the Harvard Business Review, we are usually capable of making smart decisions when we rely on our gut instincts.

Confidence in your instincts is a critical component of business success. While it’s usually ideal to rely on research and data to make decisions, there are a variety of scenarios in when empirical evidence is unavailable or inconclusive. In these situations, people with a winning mindset are comfortable making decisions with their gut. 

10. Avoid stagnation.

If you feel as though you aren’t learning new things in your personal or professional life, it’s time to change it up. Avoid stagnation in order to continue to grow. This will help you to face new challenges and overcome new obstacles.

Developing a successful mindset can take time. To get started, focus on learning new skills and putting yourself in new situations. By overcoming adversity, you’ll begin to develop faith in yourself.

Establish morning routines and build a network of talented colleagues and mentors in order to avoid stagnation and achieve moments you can be proud

How to make the right choice in marriage

Tammy Darling and her husband explored God's intent for marriage and learned that it takes work, and a healthy marriage is the result of making right choices.

The first six years of my marriage were anything but happy. My husband and I constantly butted heads, each wanting our own way. After growing weary and miserable, we decided to explore God’s intent for marriage.

With more than 20 years of marriage behind us now, we’ve learned that marriage is not a one-time “I do” and then you live happily ever after. Marriage takes work, and a healthy marriage is the result of making right choices.

Here are some of the choices that turned our marriage around:

We chose to make peace. This, however, requires humility — a virtue I don’t easily embrace. Although humility is still a difficult choice for me, I’ve learned that when I’m wrong, I should quickly and genuinely admit to it, apologize and move on. Peace enters my marriage when one spouse restores balance through humility.

We chose to serve each other. We began realizing how often we expected more from each other than we were willing to give. We knew we could either continue to selfishly demand our way, or we could selflessly surrender to one another. As both of us chose to serve, our marriage was blessed with joy.

We chose not to focus on changing each other. We’ve accepted each other’s differences, and we’ve learned not to make major issues out of minor faults. Too often I had tried to change things about my husband, not accepting the fact that any change in his heart or attitude was the Holy Spirit’s responsibility — not mine. Only when I began praying for my marriage did things begin to change — in both of us.

We chose mutual submission. Although the Bible clearly teaches that the husband is the leader of the family, Scripture also emphasizes mutual submission among all believers, encouraging us to defer to one another when possible. The apostle Paul exhorts believers to submit “to one another out of reverence for Christ” (Ephesians 5:21). The husband and wife who mutually submit do so with God as their guide.

We chose to place God first in our life and our marriage. God empowers us to remain dedicated to each other and to put the other’s needs ahead of our own. When God is the director of our lives and our marriage, we bring honor both to Him and to each other.

Make no mistake — marriage still takes work! For my husband and me, though, we’ve come to appreciate that the One who instituted marriage also holds the keys to a happy marriage. When we choose His ways, things go better.

Because our marriage experiences are directly related to the decisions we make on a daily basis, every day we face the question afresh: Will we make right choices

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