It is normal for your feelings in your relationship to start changing with time. The sparkly and exhilarating rush of falling in love is not permanent. But that does not mean that this feeling disappears, instead it evolves. Some people have the idea that the excitement of a relationship is sentenced to only the first months or even years the couple is together but these is completely false. If it comes to a long lasting relationship with a partner we chose ourselves, we can maintain the thrill of being in love, and deepen our feelings of passion and intimacy. However, to do this we need to avoid some certain behaviours, habits, and traps that couples commonly fall into the longer they stay together. Staying in love means challenging our own defences and facing our fears about intimacy. Here are some essential tips that makes couples overcome the test of time.
1. Always express appreciation: It is always great to be appreciative in your relationship. Whether you give a simple thank you for a small gesture or purchase your second favourite thing just to see a smile on their face, the more the merrier, so when you express appreciation to your significant other, it shows them that you notice what they have done for you and care enough to take the time to thank them. It is important to show your significant other appreciation. Everyone needs to be reminded that the effort they are putting in isn't in vain. Sometimes the things that are unsaid show that appreciation best. Even the simplest gesture of a kiss or cracking a joke in hopes of a smile are more than enough.
2. Have the best time doing almost anything: Fancy dinners and some cool outings might be nice for some, whether you decide to stay in for the night and watch a movie, you just enjoy being around each other. But, if you can have a great time, even when you're just hanging out and doing nothing, it shows that you find each other special enough. We don’t needsomething elaborate planned, just being in each other’s presence is a good time. You can try Netflix or just eating junk food together. Don't feel pressured to always have secure plans or to have to spend a ton of money when you go out. Save your money, get creative or just let your plans flow.
3. Equally support each other: Even in a relationship, you may feel down sometimes. Your lover should be there to uplift you and remind you that your dreams are valid. You should support one another so that you can stand alone and be strong enough when you aren’t there to support each other. We could not have said it better! As long as you're getting as much support as you put in, your relationship should reap the benefits. When a person supports you, he or she advises you even if that means deterring you from a situation that is potentially harmful. Support plays a huge role in making your significant other happy. Whether it’s motivating them to achieve their dreams or supporting their new and risky endeavour, the way in which you support your significant other and the level of support you provide can definitely affect your relationship.
4. Communicate well: You should be able to talk about just about anything with your Lover. You should be straightforward with one another and not be afraid to be vulnerable and share your feelings. It's important to be open about how you feel in order to clear up any misunderstandings. Communication is possibly the hardest, yet most necessary aspect of a relationship. It is important that both parties are direct in their needs or wants, yet receptive to the other person's perspective and thoughts. Communication can only better your relationship and show you things that you never saw to begin with.
5. Accept criticism: When someone criticizes you, you may be quick to cut them off because you don’t agree. When your relationship is solid and love is in the air listening is always worth it. If you can accept criticism, you can move on to a better relationship. We are constantly evolving into the people we are meant to be. You may not want to alter an attitude or behaviour sometimes, but if you do, you may realize that you became a much better person from it. Taking a step back and looking at things from a different perspective is helpful when trying to deal with constructive criticism in a relationship. For your lover that try to push you to your limit, take it as a gift. They are only helping you get to a better you.
6. Intimacy: The feeling of being close with your lovertrumps all. Intimacy in your relationship will not be comparable to any other situation you've ever been in. It's a chance for you to see a deeper side of your lover. If the sex isn't great at first, you can make it better by being sensitive and open, and telling your partner what you like and don't like. The connection of being intimate is like no other feeling. Sometimes, words don't do justice for how much you love someone. Show them so well that you don't have to tell them.
7. Allow them to have "me time": Sometimes, people need their space. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you are mad at one another, but maybe you should take a night to hang out with your friends. Be amazing as an individual so you can be even better together. Both of you need your personal time in order to have a more exciting together time. Even though the guys may feel this way, you need your personal time too! After a long week of work, you may not want to stay in the house and have a movie night. You may want to throw on that black fitted dress and head to the bar with your girls.
8. Trust each other: Sincerely trust can be very shaky in relationships. Understand that there are going to be ups and downs from time to time, but always try to work through them. We’re all human. But, it is important to give your partner the benefit of the doubt and trust them, unless and until you see definite evidence to the contrary. Even then, give them an opportunity to explain. Sometimes, we have to learn to hear the truth no matter how it may make us feel. Be open to listen, respond with care and grow in your experiences. Trust should be the building block that your relationship builds upon.
Relationships take a lot of patience, dedication and pure love. The desire to have a healthy and strong relationship will only lead to you and lover spending the best times of your life together. Take these tips and learn to love fully and not be ashamed. Through these secrets you both can take it to the next level
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