Stop Sleeping On Your Stomach: 7 Reasons Why

You know those tests that tell you which character type you are by the position you prefer to sleep in? I wish they also explained that not all of them are good for you.

Sleeping on your stomach, tummy, belly, abdomen, gut, the front of your back etc. is comfortable for sure, but it’s also bad for your health, and sometimes – even dangerous.

Let’s take a look at the 7 reasons why:

1: Limited Blood Flow to the Brain

Doctor said the artery near your back bone get constricted because your head is turned sideway. This as a result leads to limited blood to the brain.

2: Less Efficient Breathing

Another bad thing about sleeping on your stomach is that your chest is compressed which invariably makes breathing not effectible.

This will not allow you to get enough oxygen throughout your whole body thereby causing you to feel tired in the morning.

3: The Stomach Also Suffers

Sleeping on your tummy allows your stomach to suffer and hinders it from functioning properly. Even doing this on a full stomach can cause acid reflux leading to ulcer.

4: Wrinkles!

Holding your face down to the bed all through the night leads to puffiness of the face which eventually leads to wrinkle.

This sleeping habit reduces the circulation of air and blood to the face.

5: Stiff and Sore neck

Having your neck stuck to one position over the night is bad, which is as a result of sleeping with stomach face to the bed.

This will probably cause damage to the neck and stiffness early in the morning.

6: Too Much Pressure on Your Backbone

The backbone also suffers when you sleep tummy faced to the ground. Doing this for a long time stresses the back bone and this can cause a shorter backbone.

7: Rise of Arterial Pressure

Sleeping on your tummy causes excessive heart rate if you have problem with the heart.

Conclusion

There are quite a large number of people who sleep on their stomachs, despite the disadvantages of this position.

This could be putting a strain on their spine and neck, which might result in herniated disk disorder or nerve problems.

Stay Away From These Five Things And Your Prayers will be answered

We are human and we will continue praying to Creator to answer our prayers. These five things make your prayers to be delayed.

1. Sins : You commit sins without repenting. Sin can make your prayers to be rejected. Seek forgiveness and stay away from sins.

2. Eating and Drinking from Unlawful food: If there is a certain supplication that is not answered, it is because we have done something wrong.

For example, consuming unlawful food is a reason for our supplications to be rejected. One should repent to Allah and give up all sins.

Allah says in the Quran:

I said, " Ask forgiveness of your Lord, He is ever forgiving. He will send down abundant rain from the sky for you, He will give you wealth, He will provide you with gardens and river"

3. Praying for something Unlawful : If we ask Allah Almighty for something that is unlawful, such as breaking family ties, our supplication will not be answered.

The Prophet (PBUH) is reported to have said:

A person's supplication will continue to be answered as long as he does not pray for something sinful or for the breaking of family ties.

4. Imaptient can make your prayers  .          rejected : One’s supplication will not be answered if he hastens for it. The Prophet (PBUH) said:

The supplication of any one of you will be answered as long as he is not impatient and says, 'I made supplication, but it was not answered'.Hasten can make your prayers to be rejected. Have believe that God has not neglected you.

5. Making the answer conditional: 

One’s supplication will not be answered if he makes the answer conditional.For example, do not supplicate and say if Allah cures my illness, I will give to charity .

Above all, one needs to have believe that your prayers will be answered.

You cannot stay at home and expect miracles. You need to work. For example, asking God for a job and you do not even attempt to look for job.

3 Signs You Are Being Attacked By Witchcraft And What You Need To Beware Of

All over the world, people acknowledge the fact that we live in a spiritual world where people use dark magic to influence or destroy other people.

Every religion identifies that witches exist and they are powerful enough to do as they please to people around them.

There are many people who are suffering from the attacks of witches without even realizing it, such people may attach these attacks to something more believable such as a medical condition or a personal error.

Now what are the many things that will allow you to know you are under attack of witchcraft?

If you experience any of the followings, then you need to pay closer attention:

1. Your Pictures and other personal stuffs do go missing

You are always looking for your personal items like clothes, shoes, bags and pictures.

It is at that point you need to show your friend or colleagues a picture, then suddenly you cannot find it.

There are many other things in your house that do go missing without traces or hints of where they are or what needs to be done in order to get them back and you kept wondering what is happening to you.

2. You are always experiencing bad lucks

If no matter what you do, it always lead you to one form of disappointment or the other, you should start taking note that there is a stronger influence around you that you are not very much aware of.

You have checked that you do nothing wrong; when others are doing something and getting results, your own case seems to be opposite, failure is what you got instead of recording success, if this is happening, take note, something is wrong and most likely dark magic is being used against you.

3. Your thoughts seems like they are not your own. 

Many times you see negative thoughts seeping through your mind.

Ordinarily, you are a very positive and optimistic person but the kind of thoughts that come to your mind looks like suggestions from someone, be wary, chances are, they are not your thoughts.

Sometimes you hear voices as if people are telling you what you cannot do, telling you to stop trying or even suggesting that you kill yourself, you have to act fast, your mind is being attacked by dark forces.

All said, what must you do if you are experiencing all what is stated above?

Only God is higher than all powers. You need to act fast and seek spiritual solution from men of God or consult people who are specialist in helping people with these kinds of problems.

Don't waste any further time, and you must constantly observe the things that are happening to you as this will allow you to make a reasonable conclusion about what is happening to you.

And a quick word of caution though, make sure you talk to genuine men of God and don't be a victim of those who take advantage of other people's problems.

Businesses that Fetch Millions within 3 Months.

Many graduates tend to apply for white collar jobs and they find it herculean to get. Don't get me wrong by saying that white collar jobs are not good but quite number of Billionaires are not monthly paid, nor depend on salaries. They create their worlds by themselves, alongside the fact that they are employers of labour. Here are uncommon businesses to make you rich within a twinkle of an eye if you take it seriously. Though people failed to realize innumerable opportunities available as far as these businesses are concerned.

1.Plaintian Farming:

People commonise plaintian Farming but let me bet it with you if you take this serious, the sky is not your limit to the money you make from this. You can as well process it into flour and make it available for those who have diabetes. It's good for their health and sells fast.

2. Rabbit Rearing

Regardless your environment, just ensure you are exceptionally careful with them by taking precaution to how to farm rabbits. They multiply your income if well taken care of. They are fast selling because they are white meat rich in proteins and good for every age. You can make your fortune out of this.

3. Snail Rearing:

Nothing sells fast as snail in the market if you can get a right location and partners to trade with. I'm assuring you that you will surely make a cool cash. They recreates easily without much stress.

4. Rabbits Poo:

This serves as a best meal for cat fish and people they are into this business ensure to sell this to their right customers and smile to their banks whenever transaction took place.

5. Snail Shell

Innumerable pharmaceutical companies are in dire need of this in processing their drugs and other things. This makes it profitable to you. Rear your snail to marketable size, sell them to your customers, may be fortunate to sell it to a hotel and have the shell or buy it back. Then, resell. Boom! there you go.

If You Want To Be Happy In Love Avoid This Type Of Relationships

1. You Should avoid a relationship that adds no value to your life.

It has no future. If all you do is to sleep with each other, play

around instead of discussing things that wil benefit your life then

that relationship is a waste of time and destiny.

2. Avoid any relationship that has no direction, purpose or aim.

3. Avoid any relationship that doesn't add any positive impact on

your life.

4. Run Away from any relationship that makes you cry or gives you

more tears and cry than laughter.

5. Run away from any relationship that gives you more sorrows

than Joy.

6. Do not stay in a relationship where you love someone but the

person makes you unhappy many times.

7. When you see signs that a relationship can't work, there is no

need remaining into it. flee from it. don't keep managing.

8. Avoid any relationship where you find yourself struggling to live

your partner.

9. Avoid any relationship where you are caged or restricted from

your rights. No relationship should restrict you from your rights.

10. Avoid any relationship that will keep you Far away from God.

It has always been too much for; big boys and sweet girls watch

your steps for a greater height.

When someone loves you unconditionally their actions and attitude

towards you will be the same as their words, actions speak louder

than words, watch their actions than words

Natural Fertility booster in both Male and Female Revealed.

THE 16 HEALTH BENEFITS SECRET OF PAWPAW SEED

      

       (The Papaya Seed)

List of Ailments Treated By Papaya Seed.

1) It cure Typhoid Fever

2) It Cure Liver Disease

3) It Cure Stomach Ulcer

4) Protect Digestive System & Improve Intestinal Health.

5) It helps Your Digestive System

6) It Will Help in Your Body Detox.

7) It Rejuvenate your skin. Papaya Seed Regenerate Dead Skin Cells Hence Maintain The Beauty of The Skin.

8) Make Your Bones Stronger.

9) Prevent Aging.

10) Cure Eye Disorder

11) Increase Appetite for Food

12) Fertility. Papaya Seed Increase Sperm Production for a Man and Help Fertility of The Eggs for Women.

13) Prevent Kidney Disease.

14) Minimize Menstrual Pain for Women

15) Minimize The Risk of Cancer.

16) Rid Your Body off Parasites.

How To Use Pawpaw Seed In Treatment (Papaya Seed)?

INGREDIENTS 

1- 5 Pawpaw Seeds (Dried/Fresh)

2- Lime/Lemon Juice

HOW TO PREPARE IT

1- Grind up around Five Dried or Fresh Papaya Seeds in a blender or mortar and Pestle

2- Mix with a tablespoon of fresh lime Juice or Lemon Juice. 

DOSAGE

Drink this Papaya Seed twice a day for 30 Days.

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10 treatments facts about Alum

When you hear about alum what comes to your mind

Alum is an ingredient in some foods and a few non-edible products

Here are some interesting use of Alum you didn’t know about

•Alum For Ears:

Sometimes a condition known as Purulent Otorrhea can result in pus in the ear. In such a situation, it may also lead to hearing impairment.

Apply alum powder on the interface, and it can do wonders. It can heal the ear.

•Alum For Cold And Cough:

Here, you need a tablespoon of roasted alum. Grind the alum with six tablespoons of sugar. Store it in a container. Use a quarter of a teaspoon of the ground mixture. Have it with lukewarm milk at night.

•Alum For Piles:

For this, mix a pinch of powder alum in lukewarm. Sit in the mixture for a few minutes. This is a temporary method to provide relief.

•Alum For Pimples:

A face pack of egg whites and powdered alum is very effective in treating acne.

Alum For Urinary Problems: If you face problems during urination, drink a mix of a small amount of alum with water. It will ease the problem within a week.

•Alum For Leprosy, Eczema etc:

For this, burn about 200grams of alum. Collect the ash. Make a paste of 2 grams of the alum ash with honey and some extracts of carrot. Apply this on the affected area.

•Alum For Wounds:

For external wounds, alum provides antiseptic property. It soothes prickling and puffiness like bee stings. It also helps to prevent blood loss. Directly apply some alum on the affected area.***For internal wounds, you can have a mix of turmeric and alum in milk. Otherwise, you may drink a mixture of 1 gram of alum and ten tablespoons of curd in a cup of water.

•Alum For Fever: 

Mix alum with dried ginger. Grind it. Mix it in milk.

•Alum For Urinary Problems: If you face problems during urination, drink a mix of a small amount of alum with water. It will ease the problem within a week.

•Alum For Tonsillitis:

To treat tonsillitis, there are two methods. The first one is simple. You need to roast a piece of alum and mix it in lukewarm milk.***The second mixture consists of turmeric and warm water. You need to mix a tablespoon of turmeric and a teaspoon of alum to a cup of warm water. Gargle with this mixture.

•Alum For Jaundice:

Grind 5 grams of alum. Then, divide it into ten equal portion or doses. Mix one dose in a cup of warm milk.Drink this three times a day. It is effective for jaundice.

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6 Ways To Discover Your Hidden Talents

Do I have any talents?’ ’What if I’m not doing what’s right for me?’ ’What if I’m calling in life is completely different?’ questions of this kind run through the minds of thousands of people around the world regardless of their age.

If you’re one of those people, maybe it’s time to take a break and work out who it is you really are.

 1: Recall all of your dreams

The first thing which you need to do is recall all of the real dreams you’ve had throughout your life — right back to childhood through to your school and college years, and finally as an adult. Write them down.

2: Separate ’to have’ and ’to be’

Now that you’ve written down all your dreams, you need to separate them into two categories:

’To have’ dreams: those which involve you gaining posession of something you don’t have right now.

’To be’ dreams: those which involve you taking on some new role in life.

Now write out the ’to be’ dreams separately — we’re only going to work with them.

3: What provoked a reaction in you?

Do you remember if you ever felt a quiver excitement when you looked on at someone else fulfilling a certain role in life? Do you want to be in their place? If so, write it down.

4: What did you enjoy doing?

Note down any activities or hobbies which you have enjoyed doing in the past. What did you like doing when you were a child, or a teenager, and as an adult? What do you enjoy doing now?

 5: Get rid of what you don’t need

Look through all that you’ve written down so far. Think hard about each of your ’to be’ dreams, and see which ones still cause an emotional reaction in you — that feeling of excitement discussed in step 3. 

Now imagine yourself in those roles. What would you be doing at this moment if you were in that role? How do you feel?

Pay attention to how strong your emotional reaction is to imagining yourself in the various roles. Evaluate the strength of your reaction for each on a scale. 

6: Search for an outlet for your talents

Think about and then write down all of the possibilities for realising your dreams in real life.

What area of professional or your personal life are we talking about here? What kind of activities does it involve?

Prayer points against failure at the edge of breakthrough

In Luke 5:5-7 says, ”And Simon answering said unto him, Master, nothing; nevertheless at thy word I will let down the net.

And when they had this done, they enclosed a great multitude of fishes; and their net brake, And they beckoned unto their partners who were in the other ship, that they should come and help them.

And they come, and filled both the ships, so that they began to sink.”

The spirit of failure at the edge of breakthrough is a destructive spirit.

The spirit frustrates the life of a person and puts stumbling-blocks on its victims’ way.

To rise up and receive God’s blessings becomes frustratingly difficult.

The enemy designed it in such a way that the person can never progress or make any meaningful impact in life.

For example, If the person progresses, it will be too slow.

Most times, it comes through oppression and denial.

 If you constantly experience this spiritual attack, a deliverance session should be organised for you by your pastors.

INSTRUCTION: Embark on 3 days fasting and prayers between 6am – 6pm. Rise up at midnight between 12am – 2am to take the following prayers. Psalm 19:1-14.

Avoid sin and walk in purity at all time.

PRAYER POINTS

Powers saying it shall be too late for me, receive the stone of death, in the name of Jesus.

Every hidden barrier around me, be exposed and catch fire, in the name of Jesus.

Every stubborn serpent in my father’s house pushing me backward whenever I want to move forward, get lost and die, in Jesus name.

Every cobweb attack at the edge of my breakthroughs, backfire, in the name of Jesus.

Every disappointment at the edge of my blessings, fly out of my life, in the name of Jesus.

 Every Goliath of my father’s house waiting for me at the gate of my blessings, you shall wait in vain, in the name of Jesus.

Every seasonal problem in my life that has refused to let me go, expire by fire, in the name of Jesus. 

 I kill all strange animals sent against me in the dream with the sword of the Lord, in the name of Jesus.

Let the power of God knock down any strongman attacking me from the village, in the name of Jesus.

O God, before their eyes could open I must have gotten to my Promise Land, in the name of Jesus.

 Every ancestral stone, blocking my progress, my promotion, my marriage, ROLL AWAY BY FIRE, in the name of Jesus.

Household Goliath that has vowed that I will not move forward, hear the word of the Lord, receive the stone of fire, in the name of Jesus.

Every power squeezing my glory, you are a liar, I must get there, in the name of Jesus Satanic cage from my father’s house, break by fire, in the name of Jesus.

I refuse to be wasted this year in the name of Jesus.

 Every dark foundation blocking my spiritual eyes, clear away, in the name of Jesus Anointing of double speed, fall upon me, in the name of Jesus. 

Lord Jesus, let Your thunder and fire locate all demons against my breakthrough, in the name of Jesus.

Every strange battle at the edge of my breakthrough, scatter by fire, in the name of Jesus. 

My Father, distract my enemies with problems that are bigger than me, in the name of Jesus.

My Father, show me the secret of my next level, in the name of Jesus O God arise, give me a strong reason to celebrate and laugh this year, in the name of Jesus. 

Sickness at the edge of breakthrough, I am not your candidate, die, in Jesus name. 

The rage of evil friends at the edge of my miracle, scatter by fire, Any evil counsel received from evil personality, I reject you by fire, in the name of Jesus.

Spirit of procrastination eating up my blessings, die by fire, in the name of Jesus.

Evil rat running round my room when my blessings is around the corner, die by fire, in Jesus name. 

Evil birds flying around to stop me from my receiving my blessings, die, in Jesus name Serious confusion at the edge of my blessings, clear away by the blood of Jesus. 

Wasters of glory assigned to waste my destiny, be wasted by fire. 

 In Jesus name Powers that wants me to use my hands to scatter my blessings, you are a liar, I command your life to be scattered by fire, in Jesus name

Temptation at the close of my success, go back to your sender, in Jesus name

Any power that has gone to collect my blessings before me, you cannot go with this one, enough is enough, I command you to give it to me. 

 In Jesus name Sexual thoughts during fasting period, be arrested by fire, in Jesus name. 

 Bad spirits inspiring me not to move forward, die by fire, in Jesus name Spirit of ancestral delay in my father’s house, loose your hold over me , in Jesus name Evil ants flying around my body at the edge of my breakthrough, die, in Jesus name.

Fear, at the edge of my breakthroughs, I receive a sound mind, in Jesus name Wicked woman rising up at the edge of my testimony, I press your head down, in Jesus name

Organised sorrow from the pit of hell at the edge of my breakthrough, turn to joy, in Jesus name.

7 Types of Toxic People Who Poison your Life

Exposure to negative energy can leave one feeling confused, physically drained, and utterly frustrated. It may even result in a bout of depression, anxiety, or manifest into other mental and physical symptoms.

Sadly, the number one source of negativity is other human beings. Without properly dealing with such individuals, these folks can have a poisonous influence on anyone and everyone – and this is often their very intent.

Toxic people come in all different forms: loud and quiet; angry and calm; intelligent and dull; eccentric and “normal”…and so on. Identifying a toxic person is not always simple, as many of these types are masters at manipulation.

In understanding the different types of toxic people, we can effectively prevent or resolve any real or potential conflict. Identifying the problem is the most important step in solving it, and toxic people are no different.

Here are 7 types of toxic people (And how they can poison your life)

 1. THOSE WHO ALWAYS CRITICIZE

For some odd reason, many toxic people gain something by incessantly critiquing others. Chalk it up to poor self-image; the need to feel superior, or whatever – the reason behind it doesn’t matter; this behavior is as unacceptable as it is toxic.

We all need people in our lives that will “tell us what we need to hear, not what we want to hear.” Such dialogue is called “constructive criticism,” and is intended to leave us better off. Toxic criticism does just the opposite, and should never be tolerated.

Such people need to hear that their behavior is unwelcome and offensive, and then go about your day.

2.THOSE WHO WASTECRITICIZE. 

Toxic people often seek out attention wherever they can find it. Others may just devalue your time; completely oblivious to the fact that you’ve got things to do. Both groups of people are toxic.

People that waste time for no other purpose than to waste time are toxic; this requires us to set clear boundaries and to stand our ground.

3.THOSE WHO CONTINUALLY DISAPPOINT US AND OTHERS. 

As fallible creatures, we’ll certainly disappoint others at one time or another. Perhaps more than one time – and that’s okay; unless disappointing others becomes a usual habit. Then it’s toxic.

If someone in your life is repeating this hurtful cycle, it is time to do one of two things: (1) tell them you won’t allow it to continue – and if it does, (2) get that person out of your life.

4. THOSE WHO ALWAYS SEEM TO “SELF-REDIRECT.. 

Many toxic people have a penchant for self-centeredness. Anything and everything seemingly revolves around them – and it never stops.

“Self-redirectors” can be deciphered by their “taking” (as opposed to “giving) outlook on relationships. If it doesn’t benefit them, to hell with it. Most toxic people of this nature never change…so just let them go.

The fifth sign pertains to people we choose to keep in our life, regardless of their attitude of indifference. When we love/like/care for another human being, and our feelings are not reciprocated by that person, it’s a hard blow.

“Time heals all wounds” is an axiom that certainly applies in this case. You can’t force another person to care. Perhaps the best option is to let go and ride out the pain.

6. THOSE WHO PROTRUDE EXCESSIVE JEALOUSY. 

It’s okay to be a bit envious of a person from time to time. However, when someone is always jealous, it’s tough to be in their presence.

First, they’re almost never grateful for what they already have – and they make this known. Second, they’ll often vocally insult and disparage people who achieve any modicum of success. Finally, should you garner some accomplishment, it makes you an instant target.

Needless to say, those who are excessively envious are toxic. Time to reconsider any relationship with this person.

Refusing to take responsibility; constantly arguing with others; holding onto grudges; shifting blame to an innocent person. These are all common attitudes and behaviors of someone with a victim mentality.

Not only is this an obvious indicator of an immature mindset, but it also has a toxic effect on others. Nobody wants to be close to someone who refuses to take accountability for themselves.

Australia bushfire

For details click this link for everything you need to know about bushfire

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bushfires_in_Australia

The Black Saturday bushfires^[10] were a series of bushfires that ignited or were burning across the Australian state of Victoria on and around Saturday, 7 February 2009 and were among Australia's all-time worst bushfire disasters. The fires occurred during extreme bushfire weather conditions and resulted in Australia's highest ever loss of human life from a bushfire,^[11] with 173 fatalities.^[12] Many people were left homeless as a result.

Black Saturday bushfires
MODIS Aqua satellite image of smoke plumes and a pyrocumulus cloud northeast of Melbourne during the morning of 7 February 2009.
Location	Victoria, Australia
Statistics
Date(s)	7 February – 14 March 2009
Burned area	450,000 hectares (1,100,000 acres)[1]
Cause	Various confirmed sources including: Power lines[2] Arson[3] Lightning[4] Machinery[5]
Land use	Urban/Rural Fringe Areas, Farmland, and Forest Reserves/National Parks
Buildings destroyed	3,500+ (2,029 houses)
Fatalities	173[6][7][8]
Non-fatal injuries	414[9]

As many as 400 individual fires were recorded on Saturday 7 February; the day has become widely referred to in Australia as Black Saturday.

11 businesses you can start with 20k and become rich, everybody can do no.5

You are welcomed to Bizworld where we share business success and how to grow in business, today we will be sharing 10 businesses you can start with 20k and grow up successfully doing them.

1. Pop Corn production:

Almost everybody has patronised these sellers one way or the other, starting a pop corn business is quite cheap and it can be sold anywhere the eye can reach, in the streets, mall and cinemas, just buy Bags of corn in the market, 

Branded Nylon, Sugar, Salt & Butter and cooking utensils. The beauty of this is when properly made, its aroma will attract it’s customers. Popcorn can be served anywhere.. 

2. Fairly used cloths: Fairly Used clothss such as Jeans, Tops, t-shirts, shoes etc could be sourced at big markets at cheaper rates. Wash then and pack neatly. Marketing is all it takes, you’ll Sell and see your money multiply, all you just need in this business is wisdom, iron them and sell neatly to make cool cash.

3. Train broilers and old layers: Almost everybody eat chicken and eggs if not all, they are consumed at homes, restaurants and all food joints. Just buy infact chicken at N400 per pieces well treated and buy 2 or 3bags of feeds, train and sell the broilers at 7-8k at full maturity especially in festive seasons, the layers also produce eggs daily, put them in creates and sell to make your money.

4. Tutorial classes: This is a very cheap business to start, no matter your age and location, this is another well paying job, either as part-time or full-time. Many families are willing to spend what it takes for their children’s success and there’s one subject you’re well equipped at. Just close the gap, meet their need for a fee and smile to your bank.

5. Dry Cleaning Service: Most office workers barely have time to wash their cloths after working from Monday to Friday considering they go out early and come back late at night, some still have appointment on Saturday and left with Sunday which they go to church and would want to rest after church, you can start a dry cleaning service, make a card and give to them, they will all patronise, you just need to be diligent to succeed here. 

6. Mobile and Electronic Accessories: Almost everybody uses a smart phone in our world today and always in need of Mobile and electronic Accessories: Almost everybody uses a smart phone in our world today and always in need of Mobile and electronic Accessories such Earpiece, Pouches, Chargers, USB cables, 

HDMI cables, and more which can be sourced on Alibaba, Ali Express, Deal Extreme, etc. The more you buy the lower the price. And they are light so shipping won’t be a burden. Sell them on jumia and co. or at your desired selling spot. 

7. Bead making: Beads are highly patronised and loved by fashion lovers, you could make cool money making bead wristbands and necklace, All you need is training, passion, creativity, unique designs and styles, then adequate marketing, you are good to go.

8. Cakes and confectionery:

People celebrate everyday and if you develop the skill of making cakes you will just smile to your bank, if you give good service to your customers they will gladly refer others to you.

Cakes are on high demands in weddings and birthday celebrations, so you are sure to succeed if you put in your passion.

9. Snail Farming :

Snail farming is very cheap and affordable. You start start snail farming with N20,000. Snail farming in Nigeria is even more popular, due to its relatively cheap cost of start up and If you market your products well, your business will thrive. People also tends to patronise this business very well, this is a business you can start from your backyard. Best in mind, snails take almost a year to mature so Patience is a must if you are ready to succeed.

10. Home service barbing and hair stylist: You could buy a clipper and tell people around you your service and in no time you could start getting calls, same as hair stylist, ladies can also offer home service by making nice hair styles for women who are too busy to visit the saloon and start smiling to the bank.

11. E-Payments and POS Services:

Almost everybody operates a bank account with one bank or the other and would want to do one transaction or the other. 

POS business can earn you some reasonable income, You can get a POS machine from your Bank, and activate online banking: 

If you live in a place where banks aren’t much you can handle e-payments for people and make some money, long ATM queue might really frustrating if a person needs money urgently, here you can solve their problems and make your money. Next you smile to your bank.

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Midnight Prayers for Breakthrough

1. In the name  of Jesus I receive my breakthrough  by fire

2. Every breakthrough, that I have received from God through dreams, trances,  vision will come to me now , in the name of Jesus

3. I come against every hindrances to my breakthrough  in the mighty name of Jesus.

4. Every power chasing away my blessing disappear  by fire , in the name of Jesus.

5. Every evil eye monitoring my breakthrough be blinded  in  name of Jesus

6. Every evil  mirror manipulation  and monitoring by breakthrough break you into pieces  in Jesus Name

7. Every seed of witchcraft  blocking my breakthrough  be destroyed  by  fire, in the name of Jesus.

8. Every seed of  hatred and envy blocking my breakthrough  be consumed by the fire of God in the name of Jesus.

9. Every busybody interfering with my breakthrough be disgraced and put to shame in the name of Jesus.

10. Every curse, evil portion ,charms , spell, and enchantment  blocking my breakthrough , be destroy from my foundation in Jesus mighty name.

11. In the name of Jesus, Father God  turn my pains into gains, my disgrace into grace, my shame to fame,

12. Father God  turn my stumbling block into stepping stone of victory

13. By the fire  of God and the blood of Jesus I break every curse of disappoint ment

14. I overcome every satanic hindrances ,inhibitions, prohibitions and limitations, in the name of Jesus

15. I overcome every satanic deceptions, manipulation and distractions, I forbid agents of failure and disappointment to influence me ,in the  name of  Jesus

16. Every evil plans of the devil against me shall be exposed  and brought to nothingness

17. I receive the spirit of knowledge wisdom, understanding, divine counsel, supernatural insight  to receive my breakthrough in the name of Jesus.

18. In the name of Jesus, I am not responsive to any evil summon

19. I am not responsive to any evil  manipulation

20. Let those who are against my breakthrough be put to shame.

21. Let them be like  chaff before the wind

22. And let angels of the lord chase them.

23. In the name of Jesus I release the fire of God, Thunder And Lighting, The Blood Of Jesus and destroy every crystal ball monitoring my breakthrough.

24. I break by fire every curse, spell and covenant of disappoint and failure , in Jesus name.

25. I come against every assignment of the enemy against my breakthrough, in the name of Jesus

26. In name of Jesus, my breakthrough from the four corners  of earth come to me Now

27. My breakthrough from  East ,South, West , North come  to me now.

28. Breakthrough for my business come to me now

29. Breakthrough for my ministry I receive you now

30. My financial breakthrough  come to me now

31. Break through for my relationship I receive you in name of Jesus.

32. I request angelic assistance to insure the total completion of my breakthrough

as I release my faith and call it done in the name of Jesus Christ and by the power of His shed Blood, Amen

7 Dangerous Brain Damaging Habits To Stop Immediately

1. Skipping Breakfast. 

There is a reason that breakfast is considered the most important meal of the day. Skipping it can result in low blood sugar levels, and that is very damaging to the brain, especially if it happens a lot. 

Your brain uses more energy than any other organ in the body, and takes up to 20% of the total available glucose in your system each day.

About 2/3 of the brain’s “energy budget” is used to help neurons fire off signals to the rest of the body. The remaining 1/3 is designated for cellular maintenance and care . 

Regularly denying your brain enough nourishment causes a deficit in that energy budget, and you’ll find that your brain becomes less responsive to stimuli. 

Unbeknownst to you, your brain cells will also miss the critical care they need to be healthy, and will die at an accelerated rate.

2. Sleep Deprivation

It’s probably no surprise to you that not getting enough sleep will make you feel sluggish and forgetful the next day. The reason is that insufficient sleep robs your neurons of the ability to function properly. 

That leads to mental lapses that can affect your work and relationships. But more than that, your senses and reflexes are dulled, making it more likely that you’ll have a dangerous accident.

Chronic sleep deprivation can make these effects permanent. So the next time you feel that you are too busy to get enough sleep, remember that until your prioritize your slumber, you won’t be performing at your best. Take the time to sleep properly and you’ll get more done in less time the next day.

3. Overeating

Studies reveal a surprising connection between obesity and dementia. The reasons are unclear, but researchers suspect that obesity occurs when the food we eat lacks nutrition, leading to the desire to overeat in order to meet the body’s need for vitamins and minerals. So even if you eat a lot, you could still be starving your brain.

Observationally, we can see that by 2015, the number of patients diagnosed with dementia hit almost 45 million, a number that has doubled since 1990. In that same time, national obesity rates in the U.S. went from 11.1% to 30.6%. More studies are needed to unravel the connection, but it is clear that there is one.

4. Smoking

Plenty of research has been done on the damaging effects of smoking, so we understand this connection pretty well. 

Smoking clearly damages cell membranes and neural viability in the areas of the brain that manage balance, coordination, and both fine and gross motor skill.It also thins the cortex,where processes including language, memory, and perception occur.

Quitting now is important for your overall health, and it can help your brain as well. However, a certain amount of damage is already done. Researchers have found that smoking cessation can restore some of the cortex’s lost thickness, but even heavy ex-smokers who haven’t puffed for more than 25 years have a thinner cortex than those who never smoked.

5. Dehydration

Our bodies are made up of 70% water, so it is critical to every bodily function, including brain function. The effect on your brain of dehydration happens really quickly, too, with researchers determining that even just two hours of heavy exercise without water can cause cognitive decline. In studies,it was found that dehydration impacted functions like complex problem-solving , coordination, and attention the most.

You don’t have to stress about drinking a certain amount every day,but pay attention to your thirst as it is an excellent indicator of the need for water. 

Try to drink consistently throughout the day to keep levels steady and your brain happy.

6. Too Much Sugar

Our bodies and our brains need sugar in order to function, but our modern diets include way too much of it. When you eat too much sugar on a regular basis, your cells, including brain cells, are in a state of chronic inflammation.

That impacts the ability of your body to absorb important nutrients from food and begins to starve the brain of what it needs for optimal cognition. Ultimately, you will have a higher risk of dementia and a smaller hippocampus, the region in the brain that manages memory.

7. Stress

And finally, chronic stress can have a negative effect all over the body. Situational stress is actually a good thing that prepares the body to fight or flee in the face of danger,but when your lifestyle includes chronic stress,the hormone cortisol builds up in the brain and causes lasting damage.

Not only can it kill brain cells, it actually causes the brain to shrink. When this shrinking effect hits the prefrontal cortex, your ability to learn and remember becomes impacted. It is imperative that you find a way to relax before it’s too late.

Doing this 11 things every morning will help you stay healthy.

 Wake up early

2. Drink a glass of fresh water, adding lemon to the water if available will do your body a whole lot of good too.

3. Keep away your gadgets like smartphones, tablets, and other tech related products for the first 1 hour of your day after you wake up.

4. Think of positive things, your past achievements and everything you're grateful for.

5. Open your windows and curtains to receive sunlight and breathe in the fresh air.

6. Move your body, stretch It and do some exercise.

7. Have a healthy breakfast, with fruits and vegetables.

8. Say positive things about the day you're about start

9. Plan your day ahead, make a to-do list.

10. Forget about the previous day's mistakes and problems.

11. Read a book, it might be your Bible, Quran or any other religious books. You can also read motivational and inspirational books, whatever your interest may be.

Reading sharpens the mind, so reading a book every morning sharpens your mind for the day.

Four risky things that could send you to an early grave

Four things that could send to an early grave;,  

💋.  Habits such as sitting down for long hours or sleeping for long hours could lead you to an early grave. Such habits must be avoided by all means.

Here are four things that could lead you to an early grave. 

1. Smoking

Cigarette is not good for your health. Excessive smoking can lead you to death. Smoking affects the performance of the lungs. When the lungs become weaker your risk of death rises. Avoid smoking if you want to live longer.

2. Alcohol use

Alcohol abuse is rampant among people of different ages. Drunkards die earlier than their real age. Alcohol can lead to different diseases including liver cirrhosis. Both men and women who take alcohol risk early death.

3. Dietary behaviour

The foods you eat determine your health. There are certain foods that are not ideal for your health. For instance, foods with too much sugar and fats are not recommended for your diet. These foods should be avoided all the time if you want to live up to your 80s. The foods affect the performance of different organs hence they should not be part of your daily diet.

4. Lack Of Physical activity

Do you engage in physical activities? The body needs to be active. Lack of exercise makes you weaker. Too much of it is not also good. Make sure you work out regularly for good health.

Goal Setting Tips [Goals for 2020 Episode]

In the midst of your expectations for the future, you can get really frustrated when you plan and not see results, feeling like you are walking in circles. 

Setting personal goals is not some form of magic that will suddenly make your dreams come true with the snap of a finger,but they have the power to make your life more purposeful and give you something to look out for.

This is why people set personal goals.

If you have had challenges setting or achieving the goals that you have set already, continue reading...I will share with you tips on how you can set your personal goals.

How to set your personal goals

Setting goals is not about writing unrealistic wishes about what you want for yourself, it is about challenging yourself to achieve more (but realistically).

Step 1: Think about what you want

Many people have only a broad idea of what they want for themselves to have a good life.

It is not bad to wish to have a good life, but it is vague. If you have this kind of goal it will be difficult for you to achieve results.It is important you think about what you want. If you ultimately want a good life, then you should be able to pen down what a good life means to you. Once you can describe what a good life means to you, then it would be easy for you to build goals around it.

💕.What are the things that make me happy?

💕.Why do these things make me happy?

What are the things that I can stop doing that will help me achieve ‘my happiness’     💕.What are the things that I do already that make me happy?

💕.How can I do more of the things that make me happy?

Asking yourself these questions to help you narrow down what you want:At this stage, it is good for you to take a notepad and a pen and put down all the things that you love to do, and things that are important to you.

Step 2: Set 'Big Picture' goals or 'Life Time' goals

When you have an understanding of what you want ultimately, then you can now go ahead and set big-picture goals or life goals.

Setting lifetime goals or big-picture goals gives you an idea of what you want to achieve in your future. It gives you an overall view of different aspects of your life.

To set a big-picture goal, you may have to consider different areas of your life and what you want to achieve in those areas.

Consider the following:

Education–Is there any other knowledge that you want to acquire, what do you need to achieve that goal.

Career - What level do you want to get to in your career and what do you want to achieve

Finance – How much do you want to earn, at what stage, is it related to your career goals

Family – Do you look forward to being a parent, what do you need to achieve that goal.

Physical – Do you want to achieve physical fitness, what area of physical fitness do you want to concentrate

These are just a sample of big-picture or life goals that someone can probably set. You can come up with a better list of your own.You will have to spend more time to brainstorm on the goals and select one goal that best reflects what you want to do. You can also cut down these goals so that you can have specific goals that you want to focus on.

Quick Tip: Make sure the goals that you have set are goals that you sincerely want to achieve.

Step 3: Set smaller goals

Once you have successfully set your big-picture goals or lifetime goals, then the next thing for you to do is to set smaller goals that would help you reach your big-picture goals.

To cut down your goals into smaller actionable ones, you can break it down into the following:

💕A 5-year plan goal that will help you

achieve the big-picture goal.

💕 A one-year plan goal.

💕 Create a six-month plan goal.

      One-month plan goal.

💕 Weekly goals.

💕 Daily to-do-list.<

You should keep in mind that each of these smaller goals should be based on the big-picture goals, and should also help you work towards the ultimate goals that you have created.

You can review your plan from time to time and make sure that they fit into the way you want to become.

Step 4: Set ‘SMART’ Goals

‘SMART’ refers to Specific. Measurable. Attainable. Relevant. Time-Bound.

Understand what each means:

Set Specific Goals

Your goals should be specific, clear and well defined. Setting generalised goals will make it difficult for you to achieve success because the goals will be neither here nor there.

Remember that you are setting goals to give you a sense of direction, so you should make it possible to achieve that by setting specific goals.

Set Measurable Goals

It is important for you to set timelines for the goals that you created so that you can measure the degree of your success.

For example,if your goal is to increase revenue for your business and you don’t set a measurement plan,how would you know when there is an increase or otherwise.

If you just leave your goals at increase revenue for my business without setting up a measurement plan, you would not know the following:

💋. When you achieve a revenue increase       for your business at a particular month      or year.

💋. When you experience a decrease in             your business revenue.

💋. The plans or strategies that helped .              you achieve success.

💋. The things you did wrong and what .            you should learn from.

💋. If you are achieving your goals on .               arithmetic or geometric progressions.

Set Attainable Goals

Don’t set unrealistic goals. You should make sure you set goals that are possible for you to achieve. If you set goals that are unrealistic and unattainable, you will end up feeling like you have failed at achieving success, and this can affect your confidence too.

Notwithstanding, you should not set goals that are too easy to accomplish. You should set goals that are realistic yet challenging.

Set Relevant Goals

You should set goals that are relevant to the direction you want your life to go. Keeping your goals aligned with the direction that you want your life to go will help you stay focused on achieving the bigger picture.

Set Time-Bound Goals

When you are setting a goal, you should set time bounds or deadlines. Setting a deadline will help you know the following:

When you are lagging behind.

When you achieve success and when you should celebrate. 

Setting deadlines helps you develop the spirit of urgency that will push you to do more and eventually achieve more.

Step 5: Set Priorities

It is important that you set priorities when you set goals especially if you set multiple goals. You should give each goal a priority.

Setting priorities for each goal will help you stay on top of all your goals and will prevent you from being overwhelmed by setting too many goals. It will also give you a sense of direction in your goals.

If you have several goals, you should set a scale of preference for your goals and how you want to achieve them.For ecelebrate. 

💋. Start my ACCA Program.

💋. Start planning for a family.

💋. Increase marketing for my business.

 you have these goals.You can now re-structure it based on your scale of preference.Some goals should come before others based on their importance.

Step 6: Make an Action Plan

As much as it is important to set goals, it is also good for you to have an action plan that will help you achieve the goals that you set.

This is one of the most important aspects of setting goals. Many times, people are always focused on the outcome of their goals and not on the process that will lead to achievement.

Writing out the individual steps that will lead to achieving the ultimate goal, and then crossing each step as you complete it will give you the direction you need to achieve your goals.

If you set a big or demanding goal, it is important that you write down the steps so that you can re-visit it when you are confused.

Step 7: Focus on Your Action Plan

It is one thing to set a goal and it is another thing to make sure you achieve the goals. It is important for you to know that setting a goal is not an end on its own, but it is a means to an end.

So if you don’t follow the processes that you made on your action plan, it may be difficult for you to achieve the ultimate goals.

When you have created an action plan, try and build a reminder to keep yourself on track. It is good to make out time to review your goals.

Step 8: Keep Track of Your Progress

Writing down your goals and the processes of achieving them will help you keep track of your progress. Re-visiting your goals and the processes will help you take note of particular successes. Knowing that you are progressing with your goals will encourage you to work harder.

Sometimes keeping track of your progress may not be easy, but you can even set up a process that will help you track. 

- PURGE BABY purge. I delete all my emails, calendars, and todo list. It’s a great feeling to go in the new year without weight or doing things just because we’ve been doing things. It helps me remember which things are really the most important.

- Fantasy Story. In a story format, I write out what I want the end of the year to look like. Get creative and have fun with it.

- Calendering. Once you set your goals, add the bigger ones to your calendar. It makes it easier to know when you’re going to get them done by.

- Put Your goals EVERYWHERE. I list them on my screen, phone and check them DAILY in the strides app.

- Weekly Accountability. I email two of my friends every single week to keep me in check.

- Monthly Reports. Every month I write a report about what happened in the month (work, travel, relationship, etc.).

- Goals vs Systems vs Progress. Do whatever works for you! Goals can help keep things clear. Systems (1 content piece a week) can help get momentum. Progress (grow monthly active readers) can help bridge the gap between goals and systems.

- Review last year's goals. I won’t spend this episode doing it but you SHOULD review and compare how you did and what you can learn for this upcoming year. Also, CHANGE your goals in the 6-month mark.

- Unplanned is the most fun. Some of my most favorite things have been unplanned. Going biking and getting lost or going on an impromptu margarita tour.

For example;

You can ask a friend to help you keep track of your progress depending on what you want to achieve. If you want to achieve working out every day, you can ask a friend to remind you of your plans and keep track of your processes.

Are you getting married? Shine your eyes Get these 5 important test done before the wedding or live in regret.

We have heard of people who carry the photos of those they intend to marry to men of God for prayers, to find out if he or she is the right one or they are compatible. But many of such people forget what is most important, which is medical test.  

Marriage is no child’s play, so before you decide to walk down the aisle with the love of your life, you need to go for some medical tests to avoid unwanted and unneeded stress and problems later in marriage.

1. Infertility test

Since there are no clear symptoms of infertility, this will help check how healthy the ovaries are and the sperm count.

Bisi and her husband, Lanre, took a decision as Christians not to defile the marriage bed till their wedding night. 

First night as a married couple, Lanre complains of being tired. Days become weeks and weeks months, and it is one excuse after the other. Bisi later finds out her husband has erectile dysfunction. If only they had gone for medical checkup before the wedding.

Another scenario, Nkechi and Musa have been married for 3 years without children. They finally decide to see a doctor and find out Nkechi is not fertile.Devastating right?

If you are planning on having children in the future, you have to take this test to avoid

unnecessary biological, psychological, social and emotional trauma that comes with being unable to bear children.

When you know these results before the wedding, it helps you take informed decisions beforehand.

2. Blood group compatibility test

If you are planning on having children, this is another important test not to overlook. Crucial in blood tests is the Rhesus factor, which if overlooked can create complications during pregnancy.

The Rhesus factor is either positive or negative. If a Rhesus negative woman marries a Rhesus positive husband, there is a greater chance of rhesus incompatibility. Therefore, precautions need to be taken to avoid Rhesus incompatibility issues during pregnancy.

Technological advancement has provided a solution for Rhesus incompatibility. So, with this test, you can be better prepared ahead of time.

3. STD test

Marrying someone who has sexually transmitted diseases can cause serious problems in the marriage as some are life threatening. It is good for you and your partner to get tested for STD so you don’t have any surprises when you get married. The earlier you know, the better. This way, you can decide if you want to go ahead with the wedding or not.

4. Genetically transmitted conditions test

It is important to get tested for genetic conditions as they can be easily transferred from one generation to the other. At least, you get to know the medical background of the family you’re marrying to.

This test also helps find out whether one or both partners are carriers of the sickle cell gene (AS). Timely diagnosis will assist couples make informed choices to avoid birthing children who are sicklers (SS).

5. Mental health assessment

With the kind of news we get to hear these days of things going on in marriages, this is one test that should not be overlooked. We have heard stories of brutal things spouses do to their better half and you’re left wondering how a sane person would have done such.

Some of those violent behaviors you see your spouse exhibiting are not normal. He or she might be mentally unstable.

If you do not want to end up with a mentally unstable and violent man or woman as spouse,please take this test.If you are not bothered about living with a mentally unstable partner, still take the test so you can prepare well and be equipped for the challenges ahead.

the way we all cook rice is killing us,see best method.

It has been revealed that the way people cook their rice can end up affecting their health very seriously.

In the average home, rice is a must eat food on a daily basis, especially when you have children around.

It's so easy to cook - or so many of us assume, what with the unceremonious ways we pour it into the pot and cook it in a jiffy! Yet, researchers are saying that the way we cook rice can lead to diseases and death!

New experiments show that by simply boiling the stuff in a pan until the water has steamed out can expose rice lovers to poison arsenic.

Rice becomes contaminated with industrial toxins and pesticides as it grows. Arsenic has been lined to heart disease, diabetes and cancer.

Although popular belief that traces of arsenic are killed when rice is cooked, the truth is that they are only expelled if the rice is soaked overnight.

Researchers found that the steamed out method left only traces of arsenic

When the rice was soaked overnight, toxin-levels went down 80%.

Your best bet is to not only soak it, but then wash and rinse it until the water's clear, before draining and eventually boiling in a saucepan. Make sure you follow a ratio of five parts water to one part rice.

It's already known that rice can lead to other problems,like severe food poisoning.An agency revealed that Uncooked rice can contain spores of bacteria that can cause food poisoning.

When the rice is cooked, the spores can survive. Then, if the rice is left standing at room temperature, the spores will multiply and may produce poisons that cause vomiting or diarrhoea.

Reheating the rice won't get rid of these poisons. So, the longer cooked rice is left at room temperature, the more likely it is that poisons produced could stop the rice being safe to eat.

It's best to serve rice when it has just been cooked. If that isn't possible, cool the rice as quickly as possible (ideally within one hour) and keep it in the fridge for no more than one day until reheating.

Three Powerful Laws Of Money You Must Obey To Be Rich

The average African man believes that money is controlled by some extraneous and overwhelming forces that man should not bother to control. We tend to believe that those who are wealthy only make it by a stroke of luck.

Whereas, money is governed by principles. And when money is not controlled by principles/laws, it is temporary. Hence, we need to acquaint ourselves with laws that control money in order to gain financial freedom. 

These laws are highlighted and explained below;

(1) Money Is Hidden Inside The Problem You Solve

Many of us run away from challenges. We tend to avoid them by all means. Whereas, the money we are all looking for is embedded in the problems we solve.

For example, fashion designers solve the problems that is related to clothing.They help people design their clothes.The problems most people have is the inability to sew and design their clothes.

However, as fashion designers solve this problem, they earn money. Any problem you solve is meant to enrich your pocket. Spiritual leaders solve spiritual problems and they are rewarded monetarily. So, if you don't have the ability to solve any problem.It is impossible for you to be rich.

Hence, we all need to improve our skills and develop our capacity to solve problems.

The person that trivializes the importance of competence is in for many struggles in the bid to be wealthy in life.Money demands that you begin to solve problems. As you solve these problems, money will flow into your direction. There are transportation, spiritual, health, internal, educational challenges etc. 

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Start solving any of these problems and you will gradually become rich.

You can't become rich without solving problem. The riches you acquire without solving problems is temporary. Develop your skills. Work on yourself and start rendering services to people and you are on your way to becoming rich.

(2) Money Flies Away From Where It Is Abused To Where It Is Multiplied

It is imperative for everyone to have money management skills. Because you will soon lose the money you mismanage. Abuse of money often lead to lose of wealth. Are you the type who squander money? Do you often spend money on frivolities?

Money automatically leaves the hands of those who mismanage it and goes to those who multiply money. How do you multiply money? You multiply money by investing the little you have to make more.

Those who abuse money are those who spend money impulsively without multiplying it. Hence, we all need to develop money management skills so as to increase our wealth.

Avoid buying products to impress people. The rich hardly buy things that will not produce more money for them. Start acquiring assets. Avoid buying liabilities.

Assets are the things that put more money to your pocket while liabilities take money out of your pocket. If a car will not increase your income, you don't need to buy it. Firstly, you don't need to go for things that bring comfort if you are not rich yet.

Build your wealth before seeking comfort. At times, we lose a lot of money because we want to be comfortable. Beware! Multiply your money and you will become stinking rich.

(3) Money That Is Gathered In A Dishonest Way Will Never Last

You may not like this but it is nothing but the truth. Duping people to acquire quick money will always produce thorn in your flesh. Do not forget that as you dupe people.

The victims will place curses on you. And curses are powerful because they have great effect on people's lives.I have yet to see a man who has become the richest man in the world by cheating people. And if such person becomes rich, his riches will only last for few years.

Stop participating in schemes that promise quick and sudden wealth. They will only dupe you and make you regret.

Start a business and invest in it. Work on your life and make your money gradually. Don't be in haste be patient. You will be tempted to get rich quickly.

If you follow these principles dogmatically, you will enjoy an enduring wealth.

The 8 Most Overlooked Reasons Why Marriages Fail.

............. WE ALL KNOW FINANCIAL PROBLEMS AND POOR COMMUNICATION CAN CAUSE MARITAL PROBLEMS, BUT WHAT OTHER THREATS ARE LURKING IN THE DISTANCE?........... 

01. Lack of Investment

e think of investments in regard to money. But e forget about the time investment and ducation investment that we need to have in arning how to maintain successful marriages.

Why do we think we don’t need any skills when oing into a marriage? What other job do we sign p for without any training?” asks Sadler.Sadler’s dvice includes simply investing time in each ther that may include 2-3 hours of your ndivided attention for your partner and of course seeking out couples’ counseling and/or books to elp you navigate the obstacles of a marriage.

02. Unforgiveness

ur inability to truly forgive our partners in arriage is one of the major reasons that they ail. True forgiveness is when we are able to treat ur partners as if the offense never happened hich proves to be very difficult for couples. We re constantly reliving the trauma of past xperiences which never gives the wounds the pportunity to heal.

03. Not Showing Up for Your Spouse

o many things can happen in the course of a arriage as Dr. Bradford mentioned. As we xperience the ups and downs of life, it’s portant that our partners “show up,” in some of he most difficult experiences whether that’s sing a home, the death of a child, or a sick arent. Sadler advises the importance of being ble to ask your partner “What is it that you eed?” instead of making assumptions. She cites

major issue as the tendency we have to simply ant to fix the problem. “Every situation doesn’t eed to be fixed. 

Sometimes you just need to how up,” warns Sadler. Showing up includes eing able to communicate that you may not now what you need at the time, but finding the pportunities to talk through these tough ituations and be honest with your partner.

04. Forgetting the Friendship

omehow the terms “husband” and “wife” add so uch more pressure than we’ve experienced in ur relationships prior to the marriage. Often imes, without realizing it, we forget about the riendship that was formed in the dating process nd get so far away from it after the nuptials. adler advises that we approach marriage with riendship at the forefront and learn to be able to ommunicate with our partners from a friend erspective without always being so easily o,  

ffended.

05. Unspoken Expectations

his is definitely an area that seeps into our bility to communicate but is a very specific part f the puzzle that is often missed. Not only do we nore an opportunity to communicate our xpectations, but we also begin to act on those xpectations not being met “We come from ifferent backgrounds and expect different things nd never communicate that to our partners. omen never let men know how crucial security

to us. 

We think men should know to provide, rotect, etc., but it’s rarely discussed in detail. en are being brought up in single parent ouseholds and have no examples of what it eans to be that security,” says Sharon Sadler of OS Marriage Network.

06. Lack of Flexibility

Even if a couple has done their due diligence nd discussed and agreed on the big topics like inances and parenting styles, there needs to be oom in the plans for things to change. A artner's ideas about working outside of the ome may change after a child enters the family, r health issues could arise that impact your exual relationship,” says Joy Harden Bradford, h.D. “I think the key to managing changes that ere not expected is to remember that you and our partner are on the same team and should ut your heads together to tackle the issue and ot each other. If you find it difficult to do this on our own then scheduling an appointment with a ouple's therapist may be a great strategy to help ou both get some clarity and perspective.”

07. Familial or Societal Pressure

ften times our families have thoughts on who e should marry. Women tend to also be racing he clock when it comes to getting the husband nd the family started so they are not marked ith the scarlet letter of being “30 something and ingle.” This, Johnson believes can lead to aking rash decisions in marriage that in turn an lead to divorce. Johnson addresses the ressure that we face as women when it comes to marriage. “At some point, people will nderstand the danger of living and loving for thers to which they will want to leave the arriage. In that case, it may be the best decision for both parties involved. It's never too te to find yourself and most of us need to find urselves every few years.”

08. Lack of Self-Knowledge

There's a mix of people that never explored what hey like or need and there are others that go with hat their family thinks is good for them. 

These people date who looks good on paper for the amily and for a societal image.Whether this is to it in or stand out, depends on the individual and heir life experiences,”Jaynay C. Johnson, MFT explains. 

“My advice to overcome this is to take our time getting to know and love yourself. understand what you like and don't like.document how situations make you feel and if ou are able to overcome them quickly or not.talk your feelings out with your partner, friends ortherapist so you don't internalize emotions.finally ,accept that you will change over time. hat you like at 25 may not be what you like at 0 and that's okay.”